I like your plan about finding two lines and offering to pay for both to see if they're related! Not sure if it will work, because what I usually run into in the UK is people with my surname assuming they are related to anyone else with my surname, with no real interest in even imagining, let alone paying for a test, that that might not be the case. What I am unclear about is just what statements or questions to many in the UK/Europe find offensive? How would we word are interested in our help in such a way that they would not feel offended? This is hard for me to get because I am very open minded and really don't care much what other people think. Would it help or hurt to place the emphasis on the way that their participation would help immigrants to find their roots, as opposed to trying to convince them that there is something for them to get out of it? On Jul 2, 2010, at 10:57 PM, Sharon wrote: > My plan was to find one person with our surname who was interested in > family history and ask if there is another family they've wondered if they > were related to - then offer to test both. > > There's also something that you alluded to - more than one person told me I > needed to be very careful about how I worded the offer to avoid offending > prospective participants.