Dear Cuz Susannah, Very interesting history. When you get the date for his death pass it my way I have your mom born July 6, 1904 so I will assume from your below e-mail that he was born in 1912. Spooky about the message and then the phone call. but I have seen such things happen. Hugs Cuz B ----- Original Message ----- From: <Swbenson@aol.com> To: <WYNNE-GENEALOGY-SOCIETY-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Thursday, April 28, 2005 11:00 PM Subject: Re: [WGS] Letters > In a message dated 4/28/2005 10:10:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, > ttg-inc@comcast.net writes: > Dear Cuz Susannah, > What is your mothers death date and place for my files, as I only has 1993 > as her death date. Is your father still living? > Hugs Cuz Becky > My mother's death date: October 13, 1993. My father's date I will have to > look up. He died in his room in NY of heart problems several years before my > mother's death. He was 8 years younger than she. He wasn't discovered for at least > 10 days so the coroner established the date of death. There is a very unusual > story around his death, but first: My father was a disturbed and unbalanced > human being whom my mother married on the rebound. In fact, only yesterday it > hit me why she married him. I'd never been able to figure out why such an > intelligent woman did something that was so "dumb." When age 16 accompanying her > parents to Europe she met the man she always expected to marry. She was 16. He > was 21. His mother, 16 years later, set her son up with the girl on the > neighboring estate. My mother read about this in the NY Times. She was grief > stricken. I learned from a grief counselor that women devalue themselves when their > mate dies and are likely to be promiscuous whereas men marry quickly and usually > marry someone completely unsuitable. My mother met my father in > Philadelphia's Elfreth's Alley during an historical pageant in which she had a role. She > commented, "He held the lucky ticket." There are fascinating stories behind all > of this. > > For now the story regarding my father's death: Let's see if I can state this > succinctly. A psychic singled me out from a gathering of about 50 people and > said he had a message from "Dad." As I hadn't heard that my father had died > there was discussion as to who the message could be from. Finally the psychic > said, "He says he's Dad, I'll just tell you what he is saying." > > "Dad" thanked me for caring for my mother. He realized I hadn't been > receiving any help and stated that it was OK for me to get help. It was a warm and > supportive message. I was touched and quite puzzled by the whole exchange. Five > days later there was a message from my aunt on my answering machine that she > had "sad news" for me. My father had died. For the record this was, for me, > knews of a stranger. I did not know my father. The few encounters I had had with > him over the years were negative. > > When I spoke with my aunt and told her about the "message" I asked if my > father had been dead 5 days earlier. Turned out my aunt didn't have the details. > I, as his only heir, received the death certificate. The approximate date of > death was, as I recall, about 5 days before I received "the message." This was > definitely the most intimate moment I had had with my father since the age of 3 > when he caught a wild baby bunny for me. He was in the Merchant Marine and > never made it home from port. When I was 11 years old my parents were officially > divorced. > > All that because you asked for a date! > > All the Best, > > Susannah > > > > > ============================== > Census images 1901, 1891, 1881 and 1871, plus so much more. > Ancestry.com's United Kingdom & Ireland Collection. Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13968/rd.ashx >