I agree with you as well, LuAnne. I have encountered people who took the yDNA to find their ancestors and matched another surname altogether. That could come as a shock. I was relieved when I did match exactly with three other Stewart men. Members of my family got up in arms when I started my research. My one surviving grand aunt won't discuss my research. Rick > > From: "LuAnne Baker" <lbaker@san.rr.com> > Date: 2006/06/20 Tue PM 12:06:10 EDT > To: WVLOGAN-L@rootsweb.com > Subject: RE: [WVLOGAN] Secrets > > Well, I'll jump in here... > > I totally agree if we are talking about 100 years ago and the involved > parties are gone. But when we are talking about living people, I don't > think I do. I know of at least three cases in my extended family where > "secrets" are either common knowledge or my research has uncovered new info > proving something no one knew. But the children involved, who are now 50-90 > years old, may not know the truth or may have grown up doing everything they > could to bury the truth. While it is statistics, info, genealogy, facts, > etc. to us as researchers, to them it is their LIVES. I think it is like > sticking one's nose in where it doesn't belong to publish or publicly share > that info, even though I do record it in my files. > > One of my three cases, the "child" came to me because of my research and > asked me to find the truth. Once found, he had definite ideas of how it > should be recorded. While nowadays it is no big deal, these people weren't > raised nowadays and, to them, it can be a big deal. > > Probably the best rule of thumb and one I try to follow is not to provide > any info on any person (secrets or not) not confirmed to be deceased unless > it is easily verifiable (i.e. via census or some other widely available > resource.) I am often amazed by what I see being posted on some of the > genealogy boards, including data about living people... Even contact > information, like addresses and phone numbers. I think we get so caught up > in the genealogy research, what we can find and what we can prove, that we > lose sight of the fact that these are real people who might care what we > write about them. > > Just my two cents. > LuAnne > > -----Original Message----- > From: gracie [mailto:g.winters@sbcglobal.net] > Sent: Tuesday, June 20, 2006 7:55 AM > To: WVLOGAN-L@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [WVLOGAN] Secrets > > > Oh, come on, ya'll, get out of the 1950s. In this day, there are single > parents, sperm banks, gay marriages, cloning, etc. > > Genealogy is about telling the truth and showing proof, geez, just made > a rhyme. rofl We all work so hard to make sure we have the right > information on everything else. Shoot , just put in the mother and if you > know the father , put him in, don't worry about a marriage licence. So much > of the time we don't have those for the ones who did marry. So our ancestors > weren't perfect, neither are we. Quit tiptoeing around about descretions > over 100 years ago. Tis a better subject than the wars in mho. I know, wars > are a part of genie too. I just don't like to think about them. I have such > a delicate personality. (Now really on the floor laughing) > > Sorry for being so blunt but I just came in from weedeating(not my > favorite job) and I am sweaty, itchy, and the other itchy word. The one with > the B. > > Gracie > hoping I don't get banned for this one. > > > > > > ============================== > Search the US Census Collection. Over 140 million records added in the > last 12 months. Largest online collection in the world. Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13965/rd.ashx > >

That would be a shocker, wouldn't it?? Never thought of that. Ha ha LuAnne -----Original Message----- From: rcs5@bellsouth.net [mailto:rcs5@bellsouth.net] Sent: Tuesday, June 20, 2006 9:20 AM To: WVLOGAN-L@rootsweb.com Subject: Re: RE: [WVLOGAN] Secrets I agree with you as well, LuAnne. I have encountered people who took the yDNA to find their ancestors and matched another surname altogether. That could come as a shock. I was relieved when I did match exactly with three other Stewart men. Members of my family got up in arms when I started my research. My one surviving grand aunt won't discuss my research. Rick