LuAnne, I certainly agree with you on living people or living children. My late husband wanted me to find the mother of his son that he denied at birth. He lived with great remorse for the rest of his life that he had been such a jerk. I was never able to find her or the boy then...20 years ago. Now I might be able to but I don't know what she told the boy...maybe his father "died at war" or something. Maybe he thought her first husband was his father. My daughter really wants me to keep trying to reach her half brother but my son thinks we should let sleeping dogs lie. Even if I could find his mother I would talk to her about it but not to the 45 yr old man without her OK. To do so would be very, very wrong. I have his birth certificate under both of his parents' names. Carole