I say post it on the parents seeking siblings and siblings seeking parents web pages. That way the info is there if he comes looking, and you've done your part. That was kind of your husband. I'd do everything possible to grant his request. Sue At 05:57 PM 6/20/06 -0700, you wrote: >LuAnne, > >I certainly agree with you on living people or living children. > >My late husband wanted me to find the mother of his son that he denied at >birth. He lived with great remorse for the rest of his life that he had >been such a jerk. I was never able to find her or the boy then...20 years >ago. Now I might be able to but I don't know what she told the >boy...maybe his father "died at war" or something. Maybe he thought her >first husband was his father. > >My daughter really wants me to keep trying to reach her half brother but >my son thinks we should let sleeping dogs lie. Even if I could find his >mother I would talk to her about it but not to the 45 yr old man without >her OK. To do so would be very, very wrong. > >I have his birth certificate under both of his parents' names. > >Carole > > >============================== >Search the US Census Collection. Over 140 million records added in the >last 12 months. Largest online collection in the world. Learn more: >http://www.ancestry.com/s13965/rd.ashx

>I say post it on the parents seeking siblings and siblings seeking parents >web pages. That way the info is there if he comes looking, and you've done >your part. That was kind of your husband. I'd do everything possible to >grant > his request. Thank you, Sue. I'll do that as soon as the boy's grandma dies....she paid $400 for the girl to go away. That's not a way to teach your child responsibility, is it. Is there a Ancestry or a RootsWeb list like that? Carole

You'll probably find several in the Adoption section. Look in Cindi's List. Sue At 12:36 PM 6/21/06 -0700, you wrote: >>I say post it on the parents seeking siblings and siblings seeking >>parents web pages. That way the info is there if he comes looking, and >>you've done your part. That was kind of your husband. I'd do everything >>possible to grant > his request. > >Thank you, Sue. I'll do that as soon as the boy's grandma dies....she >paid $400 for the girl to go away. That's not a way to teach your child >responsibility, is it. > >Is there a Ancestry or a RootsWeb list like that? >Carole > > >============================== >New! Family Tree Maker 2005. Build your tree and search for your ancestors >at the same time. Share your tree with family and friends. Learn more: >http://landing.ancestry.com/familytreemaker/2005/tour.aspx?sourceid=14599&targetid=5429

I agree totally with Sue. It would be terrible if the son could never find out that his father tried to find him. If your daughter wants to find her half-bro, post that also. He might be looking himself. Secrets hurt people most of the time. Gracie ----- Original Message ----- From: "suebod" <suebod@tampabay.rr.com> To: <WVLOGAN-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Wednesday, June 21, 2006 12:35 AM Subject: [WVLOGAN] Secrets > I say post it on the parents seeking siblings and siblings seeking parents > web pages. That way the info is there if he comes looking, and you've done > your part. > > That was kind of your husband. I'd do everything possible to grant his request. > > Sue > > > At 05:57 PM 6/20/06 -0700, you wrote: > >LuAnne, > > > >I certainly agree with you on living people or living children. > > > >My late husband wanted me to find the mother of his son that he denied at > >birth. He lived with great remorse for the rest of his life that he had > >been such a jerk. I was never able to find her or the boy then...20 years > >ago. Now I might be able to but I don't know what she told the > >boy...maybe his father "died at war" or something. Maybe he thought her > >first husband was his father. > > > >My daughter really wants me to keep trying to reach her half brother but > >my son thinks we should let sleeping dogs lie. Even if I could find his > >mother I would talk to her about it but not to the 45 yr old man without > >her OK. To do so would be very, very wrong. > > > >I have his birth certificate under both of his parents' names. > > > >Carole > > > > > >============================== > >Search the US Census Collection. Over 140 million records added in the > >last 12 months. Largest online collection in the world. Learn more: > >http://www.ancestry.com/s13965/rd.ashx > > > > ============================== > Search Family and Local Histories for stories about your family and the > areas they lived. Over 85 million names added in the last 12 months. > Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13966/rd.ashx >