Hi, If any of your ancestors served in the military the government will make up a marker for you. But it comes to you or someone designate. You are responsible for getting it on the grave. My coz has several come to his house then he took them up to the family cemtary and put them up. Contact the Veterans Administration near you or call 1-800-697-6947. This is the Applicant Assistance Division. It says on the back of the VA Form 40-1330 they will help you complete the form. I haven't ordered one yet. Just coming up with some proof they served. There are several markers to choose from and the spouse can be on it also. Thought I would just pass this on to help. I know how it is to be one step from in the poor house. Good luck, Leigh