Apologies to the list and to John. I thought I sent this privately and am horrified to find it posted. When I got home last night, I found 471 e-mails, and I've been working hard trying to clear them. Unfortunately, I became careless about the address on this reply. I assure all it was unintentional and I will try to be more careful. Embarassedly, Ashley > Very very few buildings burned in Milwaukee at that time. Major amounts > were torn down for the freeway and for development purposes. The power > structure was then and remains now unilaterally white and male. >

What I wrote yesterday, which I thought was private to a good friend, was thru carelessness both very damaging to the friend and posted publicly. I took a sentence out of context and added comments to it that were entirely mine, based on past history and my own reactions to it. This has hurt my friend deeply and that was never my intent. When we go thru life sticking oversized feet into our mouths, walking one-legged becomes difficult. John has been my good friend for a year and more. He's been endlessly helpful to others also. What had started as a quirkily humorous comment somehow got out of hand; in the rush to send it and go onto the next message, I didn't think clearly and found what was intended as private, and perhaps amusing, became public and painful. I did not intend harm yet it has been done. Somehow I keep thinking of America and our time of trial. What we do often impacts on others. Seldom has what started out as a shared odd humor come back at me with the other friend in pain from it. Yet all of us know the pain of injury that wasn't intended. I hope our country's future is less personally painful for all but I can see no easy resolution for the attacks of September 11. Unfortunately, what reads like an attack in my comments of yesterday also has been wounding and in this case it was inadvertent. I'd like to repeat that John has been my friend and a very helpful one. He is a big hearted, helpful friend to many on this list. I did not intend hurt with yesterday's message but have done more than irritate. I am sorry. Another friend wrote, counseling patience, and offering up a story about damages unintentionally inflicted. I don't have permission from him to quote this, but would like to think good intentions here on my part would allow it. "The world has been, is now, and I am sorry to say will probably always be race orientated. All we can do is live our lives with love for all mankind and hope that we will be able to influence a few here and there. " When we act without thought, as I did yesterday, the influence, however positive in its beginnings, becomes negative in its endings. I didn't look at the consequences and have done damage. One writes in haste, other people pay. With regret, Ashley Ashley Tiwara wrote: > Apologies to the list and to John. I thought I sent this privately and am > horrified to find it posted. When I got home last night, I found 471 e-mails, and > I've been working hard trying to clear them. Unfortunately, I became careless > about the address on this reply. I assure all it was unintentional and I will try > to be more careful. > > Embarassedly, > Ashley > > > Very very few buildings burned in Milwaukee at that time. Major amounts > > were torn down for the freeway and for development purposes. The power > > structure was then and remains now unilaterally white and male. > > > > ============================== > Search over 1 Billion names at Ancestry.com! > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/rwlist1.asp