Mari, You are a great list admin. It's a thankless job no matter how well you manage it, you can't please all the folks nor keep from correcting some. I've been corrected many times on lists, had some never respond, been flamed, had nasty sarcastic remarks, snide snippy short tempers, the whole shebang. Many times, I've found that I had information which someone who'd been nasty, needed. Their loss. **Hang in there.....& don't worry about those with thin skins. I'm sorry Tammy left. Perhaps it was a sequence of bad experiences for her, and she'll come back when she realizes it's not a personal thing. As I conveyed previously, I'm even more sorry I brought up the popcorn From GRANT County cultural side note which was subject labeled as OFF-Topic, because it obviously tweaked someone's nerves and rattled some cages, but mostly because it made trouble for you Mari. (hanging head) Many lists have just as many differing topical boundaries. We as list members just have to learn which is which and adjust. It's not up to the admin to kiss everyone's proverbial baby. There are a few lists I'm currently sub'd to which don't have admins and I was considering adopting one (some) of them, but this sort of thing makes me aware of just what a p.i.t.a. (not explaining that acronym) it can be. Thank goodness this list does have a good admin, because it is much nicer to know it's in good hands and when snags do arise, it is handled well, timely and fairly--not so with those non-admin lists. Smile. Di <-- Wondering if Dave's POTTER folks connected via McGHAN? are related to her cousin's Potter from Grant WI and Iowa (State) Reed-Potter-Cooper; VA>OH>WI>IA. (deleted a message I'd skimmed just as the Potter name caught my eye) == In a message dated 02/2/20 8:51:25 PM, ddmmjm@netins.net writes: << (sigh).......I was afraid of that. I have been in that spot too, Sandy.......which is why I try to bend over backward to not appear to be a "lock and key" list admin. I'll try and contact her. Thanks for letting me know. Mari At 09:42 PM 2/20/02 , SandysSerchin' wrote: >Mari >I think you are a wonder list administrator too and I have always >appreciated help you have given me, but it is too late Tammie is >gone. She was upset and I don't think she knew it was a wrong question to >ask, completely innocent. She unsubscribed because she said the only 2 >messages she posted had a negative response and I have done that with >another list I belonged to because I felt like I was under such lock and >key and had to walk on eggshells. You have a good list here and I told >her that she should stay, but sometimes people take things personally and >maybe she was already having a bad day and one negative message to her, >probably upset her. I don't believe she knew a family tree question >wasen't genealogy and she thought everyone on this list was so helpful so >that is why she asked. >It's too bad she had the wrong idea about you. I did however tell her you >were always very nice and you let the popcorn thing go for a while >>