----- Original Message ----- From: <rtoler45@hotmail.com> > ...but I do know my mother, Dolores Sanders and am looking for my father whom I was told, has or had red hair. I know nothing about him. My mothers maiden name was Ottolino but was Sanders when I was born. So her full maiden name is Dolores Josephine Ottolino. My birthdate is ... ... ... born in King County Hospital, Seattle Washington. I have a list of all men that had red hair visiting or living in Seattle in 1952...no, that won't help. Genealogy begins at home. If your mother is still living, ASK HER FIRST. If not, does she have any living siblings, parents, aunts/uncles, cousins, someone in the family still alive? Does she have any dear old friends, such as high school or college friends that may have information. Have you tried to obtain your birth certificate? Ask anyone/everyone in the family or her friends. If there is a legal freeze on it being released, you can take it to court to have it released. Your children and you need to know of any family medical history on his side. Second, check records. If they lived together in 1952, 53, etc, there may be a record of them living in a residence in Seattle in the Polk City Directories. These Directories are not phone books but listings of persons residing at an address. Have you tried to obtain a birth announcement in the newspaper? They would identify that a baby girl born to Mr. Xx and Mrs. X. Your mothers name went from Ottolino to Sanders. Was this mystery person the Sanders, or was she later married to Sanders? In your childhood, who was she living with? Did your mother ever complain that someone wasn't paying child support? Did your mother ever make comments on your father? So, first, start at home, then obtain records and write down all facts learned, verified or not. Sometimes a verified fact is untrue and a suspected lie is the truth. Historically, the Korean War was going on, your father could have been home on leave from the Army, or was stationed in Washington from some other far US home. It could have been a long term romance with marriage and then divorce; or just a fling; or worse-a criminal act. I'm sure you're aware of the possibilities. Your father may not want anything to do with you or even acknowledge you. Which may be the case if he had known of you and hadn't made contact. Or, he may not even know of your existence. Curiosity is understandable, medical needs are realistic; but do you REALLY want to know. It could be more painful than satisfaction of curiosity. I, and my siblings, have learned recently that we may have an unknown sister. She may or may not have any knowledge of her paternity. We do not wish to attempt to find her, as it may devastate her life. Sometimes, it's better to let the unknowns remain. Ron Bestrom

I also have my first spouce who had an afair with another married woman. This was around Easter time in 1953. Then new years day she had another boy. ( her marriage had gotten her 2 boys, 1 with black hair like his father and other red hair like WHO. Then along came the 3rd. a son blonging to my spouce b New years day, and first in the County in Ore. 1954. I saw him several times and last when he was about 4 yrs old. Spitten image of my first spouce. He has a half sister, our dau. b 1947. She don't even want ro meet him or know who he is and he lives in the next lttle town from her all his life and is now 50 years old. I haven't the nerve to contact him and tell him yet but sure want to. I have known this for a number of years as well. willma@sprynet.com ----- Original Message ----- From: "Ron Bestrom" <rbestrom@earthlink.net> To: <WASHINGTON-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Saturday, January 29, 2005 5:01 PM Subject: Re: [WASHINGTON-L] Re: Sanders > ----- Original Message ----- > From: <rtoler45@hotmail.com> > > > ...but I do know my mother, Dolores Sanders and am looking for my father > whom I was told, has or had red hair. I know nothing about him. My mothers > maiden name was Ottolino but was Sanders when I was born. So her full > maiden name is Dolores Josephine Ottolino. My birthdate is ... ... ... born > in King County Hospital, Seattle Washington. > > I have a list of all men that had red hair visiting or living in Seattle in > 1952...no, that won't help. > > Genealogy begins at home. If your mother is still living, ASK HER FIRST. > If not, does she have any living siblings, parents, aunts/uncles, cousins, > someone in the family still alive? Does she have any dear old friends, such > as high school or college friends that may have information. Have you tried > to obtain your birth certificate? Ask anyone/everyone in the family or her > friends. If there is a legal freeze on it being released, you can take it > to court to have it released. Your children and you need to know of any > family medical history on his side. > > Second, check records. If they lived together in 1952, 53, etc, there may > be a record of them living in a residence in Seattle in the Polk City > Directories. These Directories are not phone books but listings of persons > residing at an address. Have you tried to obtain a birth announcement in > the newspaper? They would identify that a baby girl born to Mr. Xx and Mrs. > X. Your mothers name went from Ottolino to Sanders. Was this mystery > person the Sanders, or was she later married to Sanders? In your childhood, > who was she living with? Did your mother ever complain that someone wasn't > paying child support? Did your mother ever make comments on your father? > > So, first, start at home, then obtain records and write down all facts > learned, verified or not. Sometimes a verified fact is untrue and a > suspected lie is the truth. > > Historically, the Korean War was going on, your father could have been home > on leave from the Army, or was stationed in Washington from some other far > US home. It could have been a long term romance with marriage and then > divorce; or just a fling; or worse-a criminal act. I'm sure you're aware of > the possibilities. Your father may not want anything to do with you or even > acknowledge you. Which may be the case if he had known of you and hadn't > made contact. Or, he may not even know of your existence. Curiosity is > understandable, medical needs are realistic; but do you REALLY want to know. > It could be more painful than satisfaction of curiosity. I, and my > siblings, have learned recently that we may have an unknown sister. She > may or may not have any knowledge of her paternity. We do not wish to > attempt to find her, as it may devastate her life. Sometimes, it's better > to let the unknowns remain. > > Ron Bestrom > > > > >