To harry is to disturb by constant attacks, harrass, raid or pillage. I guess then, by definition, the wife could be described as a haridan. Doug. From: MK <[email protected]> Subject: [VERMONT] Harried - cause of death I found a death record for a man who died at?Craftsbury, VT.? This record states his cause of death was?murder, "harried to death by his wife".? Does this mean she physically harmed him, or just nagged him to death? I believe I have read the handwriting correctly and the word is harried.