Hello, everyone, I have had about *thirty* requests from people to unsub from TXNACOGD. Let me say a couple of things. If you sent the unsub request to the list, as I think many of you did, you are still going to be subscribed. To actually unsubscribe, you must send the request 'Unsubscribe' in the first line of the BODY of an email to the follow ing address: [email protected] I believe the the problem with the Houston obits has been solved. Janie Hinton has very graciously and immediately agreed to send the obits to the EAST-TEXAS-ROOTS list, but no longer to TXNACOGD. If you are on East-Texas-Roots you will continue to get the obits. East-Texas-Roots is a broadly based list that includes Houston and Harris County. If you have obits from Nacogdoches County that you would like to post, there is, as I mentioned a GenConnect Board for Nacogdoches County Obits. In the course of the Obits controversy, several people made some very helpful suggestions and tried to find constructive ways to resolve the situation. Other people were quicker to attack. When someone suggested setting up a mailing list for obits, Janie wrote that she would consider that, and some people thought she was responding that way to the Listowner's request to provide the obits to East-Texas-Roots but not TXNACOGD. Not so. Janie has not only been generous in sharing the obits, but very positively and quickly cooperative in what I asked. The TXNACOGD list isn't moderated, which means that I do not see the mail that is sent to the list until you do. It means that sometimes things get through that shouldn't, and that sometimes a person reacts too quickly to something -- we've all done that when we were tired, stressed or feeling less than great and something just rubbed us the wrong way. Rootsweb attempts to stop spam, but some will occasionally creep through. I usually try to let things take their course, rather than acting in a heavy-handed way, but I do try to be responsive. If things go along normally on this list and then something suddenly heats up, there are several things that you can do to help. DON'T respond to the list. Write to me privately with your concerns. My email address is [email protected] If for some reason that one doesn't work, [email protected] usually will, or vice versa. If you do really feel you need to unsubscribe, do so on the address given above ([email protected]), but the chances are that the situation won't last, so usually unsubbing shouldn't be necessary. I do know how busy people are, and how stressed, and how aggravating to have dozens of off-topic or flame messages greet you after a long day at work. However, in spite of that, it really *does* help to try to take the attitude that the person who did or said something that upset you didn't do it intentionally and that there is a huge chance that it is all going to get worked out very shortly. I know a couple people have already written to me privately that they regretted their outbursts. I am going to compile a list of the people I know about who unsubbed and let them know that the situation is resolved. If you know of anyone who left because of it, let them know. The way to subcribe is to send an email to [email protected] with the request 'subscribe' in the first line of the BODY of the message. Thanks again to Janie Hinton, and all who helped get this resolved. Sincerely, Pam Phillips Email: [email protected] Listowner: TXNACOGD-L