Phyllis wrote: > And if you don't like obituary information posted on the > internet then > discuss with family members what to include or exclude in > the obituary. That was one of the points of my first post.  I knew my mother's obituary would be published on the internet, but even with my genealogy background, I naively thought someone would have to go looking for it. It never dawned on me Ancestry.com was crawling the tiny rural mortuary's website and it would be handed to non-related name collectors' public trees via the little green leaf.  Nor did I realize the extent to which people who don't understand (or willfully violate) copyright would think it's perfectly fine to copy and paste a just-published obituary into Find-A-Grave.  Find-A-Grave may have a policy against this, but they don't exactly put effort into enforcement of the policy. Lesson learned. BTW, I didn't go looking for my mother at FindAGrave or Ancestry. I stumbled upon both situations looking for long-deceased relatives and ancestors. The unexpected nature of the discovery was part of the distress. Connie