I have found many of my close relatives listed on find a grave, dead fred or separate website listing all buried in a particular cemetery. None put up by family members. I believe this goes along the lines of SSDI being public....ditto obits, etc. I believe it is people doing genealogy that want the information available to any relative that might be searching. I know of many genealogical societies that record and post entire cemeteries, some just the info, some with photos and some with additional details from research they have done. FAG has what is called a Virtual Cemetery where you can list people without an actual cemetery, so it is for memorials. There is also a leave flowers and a note, I have just this to correct any bad information. I fear too many start complaining about loved ones listed then it will turn into another resource that the government might poke their head into and limit access. Jill www.jillsgenealogy.com