Regarding Find A Grave, one I am struggling to find much help there so I signed up to place the ones I know there for others to find. 2. Many societies that I am aware of have people capture and place data up so it is not lost and can be found by unknown kin. I used to clip Obits from paper for our society to put in binder. I do not think anyone is doing that any more. The paper has made them available. 3. Purpose of Find A Grave is to share the death information, I like that because cost of Obits in ten papers is prohibitive. 4. If you listen to people at a Brick Wall chat you will find that it is an Obituary that many times helps them to find their kin or missing link. 5. I am sorry people feel so sensitive to the situation, Maybe it is the reason my parents requested no grave stones, No it really is because Dad's sis does not have one yet. I hope to remedy that this winter. Then I can place theirs next. Maybe Find A Grave needs to align how they want you to put up a marker so it does not become a memorial by someone else. But by whom ever it is, a positive thing to have one remembered. I hope this helps set the prospective of what most are attempting to do. Blessings, Susi