Hello all. I thought these answers were interesting as it shows the chance in mind set over the years. These answers are from 1886 and are like those answers of Anne Landers to people who have written to her of their problems. > > VANITY - We have pleaure in directing attention to the opening of a home for > destitute children of the upper classes at Tunbridge Wells. So much is done > for the lower orders, and so very little for poor gentry, that we sincerely > wish this little institution will meet with abundant support. Address Mrs. > Laddis, hon. Secretary, 11, South-grove, Tunbridge Wells. The objects are > twofold - to provide a home for the children till able to earn a livelihood, > and to offer temporary change of air to those whose parents (military, naval > or proffessional) can only make a small payment for it. > > JEANETTE -You would be both rash and imprudent in marrying so unreliable a > man. His saying that he "could do so much with you" is mere talk, when every > act has contradicted the assertion. Besides, he has no right to reckon uopn > leaning on you. You have right to expect to lean upon him. He is a broken > reed to depend uopn, and would drag you down to poverty , and then, when > failures and want have tried his weak nature, who knows the result? Drink > might follow. It is unmanly and dishonourable in a man who has no home nor > money to ask any woman to marry him, and you are fully justified in > withdrawing from the engagement without asking his permission, having > already excused his failures so often. Ask your parents to dismiss him if > troublesome. > > JUST EIGHTEEN - The mutual opening of each other's letters should be made > from the beginning a matter of distinct agreement between a husband and > wife. However great the mutual confidence may be, expediency may often > render the the indiscriminate opening of letters undesirable as a regular > rule. In fact, it would be better, in our opinion, that each should open > their own, and respect those of the other, thereby showing the greater > confidence in that respect. Voluntarily to read aloud the ordinary letters > to each other is certainly desirable. > > A CONSTANT READER - tells us that she has become so deaf from a severe > cold, that she could not hear the clock strike when close to it. For this > deafness she tried the following prescription , for which, she says, a lady > paid a physician three guineas. She moistened a little wool with the fat of > uncooked bacon, and put it in her ears, changing it every second day. The > weather being cold, she tied a lace lappet over her ears, and when out of > doors covered them with her bonnet strings. In less than a fortnight her > hearing was restored, and she has had no return of deafness. Another lady > recovered her hearing by means of taking a strong tonic, taking also > nourishing food, and so strengthening the entire system, and with equally > satisfactory results. > Donna King List Owner Tolpuddle/Cannell Mailing Lists deking@rogers.com LOVELESS/LOVELACE GENEALOGY PAGE - UNITED KINGDOM/CANADA/AUSTRALIA http://homepages.rootsweb.com/~martyrs Donna's Genealogy Page http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Park/3288 We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors...but they all have to learn to live in the same box.