Maybe the lady was having a problem to deal with sorry to know people hurt each other, but it happens.So just keep writing any way you please most, only read your words. .I got one ugly email once and i know it isn't nice am also a senior lady, but who cares we are only as old as we feel. Bless you and i hope you find your ancestors.If only your James knew how poplar his name would become in the future. Betty