Hello All, the newest issue of "The Stewart-Houston Times" newspaper came out today and again I am confronted with a dilemma. Ever since I started collecting, posting, and sharing obituaries I am very reluctant to post very recent obituaries for children and especially infants. It's kind of funny, it doesn't bother me to post an obituary of the death of a child or infant from the 1970's or the 1950's and so on, but recent child deaths just seem to be something that I should not post. As a genealogy researcher, I know that this child's death is part of the family history, but I worry that it is not the proper thing to post so I haven't. I thought about if it was my child and what would I want, and to be honest, I don't think it would not bother me, but then again I understand the family history associated and it hasn't happened to me. Am I doing the right thing? In Christ, Melissa Barker

Melissa, Just my humble opinion, but perhaps a new obituary, say from 1995 to 2004, maybe should be left alone, too recent. But anything prior to 1995, or whatever your cut off may be, would be old news. Whatever your decision, will be ok with me, I certainly appreciate what you are doing, you solved a genealogy question for me some months ago,(Mattie Morgan Knight) by posting Obits. Thanks again for you efforts. Jim Morgan (Phoenix Arizona) ----- Original Message ----- From: "kaitysmom" <kaitysmom@peoplestel.net> To: <TNSTEWAR-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 14, 2004 11:02 AM Subject: [TNSTEWAR] Children's Obituaries > Hello All, the newest issue of "The Stewart-Houston Times" newspaper came out today and again I am confronted with a dilemma. > > Ever since I started collecting, posting, and sharing obituaries I am very reluctant to post very recent obituaries for children and especially infants. > > It's kind of funny, it doesn't bother me to post an obituary of the death of a child or infant from the 1970's or the 1950's and so on, but recent child deaths just seem to be something that I should not post. > > As a genealogy researcher, I know that this child's death is part of the family history, but I worry that it is not the proper thing to post so I haven't. I thought about if it was my child and what would I want, and to be honest, I don't think it would not bother me, but then again I understand the family history associated and it hasn't happened to me. > > Am I doing the right thing? > > In Christ, > Melissa Barker > > > ==== TNSTEWAR Mailing List ==== > Bookmark the Updates page: http://www.rootsweb.com/~tnstewar/update.htm > > ============================== > Gain access to over two billion names including the new Immigration > Collection with an Ancestry.com free trial. Click to learn more. > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=4930&sourceid=1237 > >

Dear Melissa, I know how children's obituaries can become emotional and appreciate your asking. Speaking for myself, if the obituary has been placed in the paper the family has allowed it to be shared with everyone. If it were not published then would I consider it more private and let another date and time reveal the information. Your posts maybe the only way others, friends and family who know the family would even find out about the loss and contact the family to express their sadness in their lost. From a Genealogist view, it could provide a family connection that solve that brick wall so many of us have come across through the years. Humbly and respectfully Dean Egner -----Original Message----- From: kaitysmom [mailto:kaitysmom@peoplestel.net] Sent: Tuesday, September 14, 2004 2:03 PM To: TNSTEWAR-L@rootsweb.com Subject: [TNSTEWAR] Children's Obituaries Hello All, the newest issue of "The Stewart-Houston Times" newspaper came out today and again I am confronted with a dilemma. Ever since I started collecting, posting, and sharing obituaries I am very reluctant to post very recent obituaries for children and especially infants. It's kind of funny, it doesn't bother me to post an obituary of the death of a child or infant from the 1970's or the 1950's and so on, but recent child deaths just seem to be something that I should not post. As a genealogy researcher, I know that this child's death is part of the family history, but I worry that it is not the proper thing to post so I haven't. I thought about if it was my child and what would I want, and to be honest, I don't think it would not bother me, but then again I understand the family history associated and it hasn't happened to me. Am I doing the right thing? In Christ, Melissa Barker ==== TNSTEWAR Mailing List ==== Bookmark the Updates page: http://www.rootsweb.com/~tnstewar/update.htm ============================== Gain access to over two billion names including the new Immigration Collection with an Ancestry.com free trial. Click to learn more. http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=4930&sourceid=1237