you didn't do anything wrong, if it made you feel good then you did the right thing,i think your mother would be happy you did it. Bobby ----- Original Message ----- From: Janis S. <janisjs@hotmail.com> To: <TNGIBSON-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Monday, March 27, 2000 7:50 AM Subject: [TNGIBSON] spontaneous decision > Hello All > > Happy Monday to you! This past weekend, I made a trip to Illinois (I live > in Mpls, MN) to do some family research in cemeteries. My main reason for > going was to place flowers at my grandmother's grave site because her (86th) > birthday was March 24. > > While there, I made a decision to put a down-payment on a granite headstone > for her. Since her death in 1982, no one has taken the initiative to > purchase one. So, I did. > > The reason I'm writing is that my mother, my grandmother's only child, does > not know that I did this and I would like to know from "listers" what you > think and what would you do?? Should I have consulted with mom beforehand?? > I know this is sora-kinda-non-list-related, but I just need support about > my decsion. > > Thanks, > Janis Shearer > Researching: ADAMS & BUCHANAN families in Gibson, TN > > > ______________________________________________________ > Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com >