In a message dated 3/27/00 6:53:40 AM Pacific Standard Time, janisjs@hotmail.com writes: << The reason I'm writing is that my mother, my grandmother's only child, does not know that I did this and I would like to know from "listers" what you think and what would you do?? Should I have consulted with mom beforehand?? I know this is sora-kinda-non-list-related, but I just need support about >> I'd just explain that it was a spur of the moment decision--you just wanted to honor both your grandmother and your mom. I would be touched if I were her! Dorothy