Cher, I haven't been on the list very long but I have really enjoyed reading everyone's messages regarding their Dickson county roots. I totally understand your situation as I lost my mother last year (and my dad 9 years ago). I am an only child and no matter what ( my husband, 4 grown kids, grandkids, friends,family) nobody takes the place of your parents.) It is a big adjustment and don't feel guilty about taking some time for yourself. I had to do that too. I had quit my job to take care of mom and there was such a void when she passed away. Also our first 2 grandkids were born within 2 weeks of her death, Samantha 6 days later and Kenneth 9 days after her. I went from adjusting to a family without "grandma", to being "grandma" myself. It isn't easy. The bottom line here is even though I haven't been real active on the list, I feel as though I know you and my thoughts and prayers are with you. Having some time to yourself and also having someone to talk things over with will help you to regroup and be ready to face the world again, sooner than you think. If you are ever around the Madison County, Illinois area, I'd be happy to show you around, just give me a call. If you're interested I'll send you my phone number! Lots of love, sharon Jones