Wow! What a New Year's Day yu had. I think it's good Nicholas got caught -- and I hope you and Barb don't just get him out of jail. I think maybe going in front of a judge might be what he needs. This should scare him enough that he'll be willing to go into treatment to get himself straightened out big time. A few days in jail won't hurt him as they don't usually put you in a situation where you're in danger of anything nasty happening (how do I know? Chris was in jail for a few hours once.). Anyway, this could really be a blessing in disguise. Let me kw what happens on Monday. I can't wait to hear! Hang tough and don't let him get to Barb's "mothering" side or she'll have him out in no time and nothing will change. Love ya, di Neal & Barbara wrote: > YOU got it sweetheart! My "middle step son" Niocholas "the > troubled/troublesome one" well he wound up in jail for new years! I talked > to acquaintances I trust one had similar deal with his son, and said a > "defered sentence" is a way! we discussed that, and it sounds good to me! > Barb. never wanted him to go to jail HELL what mom would! LOL! So she claim > ed trying to PUT HIM in some "boot camp" for bad boys or a "treatment" > program would NOT work, I agree as we discussed> you have to WANT TO do that > sort of thing or no one can make you do it! So a deffered sentence the way > my friend laid it out is like this " you get a option of PAYING $, and he > has no job to prove he could pay in a time pay situation, plus they NOW know > he has no license or insurance(since he is captive and under their > scrutaney(sp) so that leaves BAIL BOND, again he has no job, who in their > right mind would give a guy with NO $$$, and no job a bail bomd, so that > leaves Mom & Dad to pay $$$ the proper response to that from US would be > easy "NO" so he can get his little butt out with the deferred sentence, it > would be HIS CHOICE, right?. > makes sense to ME! > I suppose he would have to meet their guidlines or immediatly be in > "VIOLATION OF THE AGREED UPON CRITERIA" and that would mean > re-incarceration, and he'de have to SERVE the time! OUCH! EH? I hope we > can get this (frankly:"pain in the arse" young man) straightened iut this > way! Even MOM says I can not afford to pay $$$$ to keep on getting > his arse out of jail etc... so this is it! I doubt if they will like let him > out on his own recognisense ! I guess he assualted cop, tried to run or ? > had pot on him, and paraphenalia too, and a warrant for ???? and the > origional charge of ? maybe public drunk??? OH HAPPY DAY huh? we > will work it out Monday, I know how awful jail IS ! and I'm pretty sure this > young man is pretty clueless about legal stuff etc... so if we recommend a > "court appointed lawyer to him, maybe they will do this on their own FOR > HIM? > I told Barb. WE should get a lawyer on a retainer to do the necessary stuff > to get him on a deferred deal! I have to go to the arrainment Monday @ 3:00 > pm so will let you know, whats up! sorry to drop this on YOU! But we are > family, and I need to let this out to vent my feelings on this ! I'm > almost GLAD this happened because he thought we were full of it, wanting him > in school, and thought his part time jobs without any responsibilty shown > was JUIST FINE for his life! OOPS! WRONG THOUGH! Neal > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Diana Starr" <razzberri@earthlink.net> > To: <STARR-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Saturday, January 01, 2000 10:41 AM > Subject: Happy New Year > > > Happy New Year one and all. I do hope and pray that this will be a year > > of peace, love and contentment for everyone. Let's all try and make it > > the best year yet! > > With peace and love, > > di/awi dakana > >