Hi Judy..and all... am so sorry you lost your hubby. I can't offer any words of wisdom....just prayers and love... xoxoxoxo paulette in sw fla usa p.s. I stayed with my sister for over a month after her hubby passed....she just wanted someone to be there On Sat, Jun 7, 2008 at 2:08 PM, Judy Arnold <judith@omuonline.net> wrote: > Stella, > I have not gotten use to this yet. My husband passed away last > September. Everyone is around. > Then you are by yourself. One daughter lives in Portland. The other a > few blocks away. I see them > probably 3 times a week. They are great to me but I do not like being > by myself. > Judy > >

Judy...I am so sorry about you husband. I lost mine to the dreaded big C...in 1982, but I have not gotten really used to being alone. You never stop missing them...but I was working on a very responsible job,and had a son to get through school...so I guess I stayed busy...Can you plan some activity, for the days that nobody is around? I know...you really don't want to...it takes awhile , but you need to go volunteer at a nursing home or the library, or somewhere to get yourself out...and your mind off things.I found myself...after a few months really enjoying other people. Do you happen to live close to a college, or something...to consider renting a room to a student? I did that one year. (it was a little income, which I found handy at the time, and it was nice to look forward to someone coming in at night) I will not say Time will make it better, as a lot of wonderful, well meaning people said to me...I will say, it is different, with time. And some of us will be online to talk to you, anytime you are lonely and want to talk. And you pick the subject of conversation .. Please remember, we all share some hurt and sorrow in our lives, no doubt, at our ages, we want to be friends anyway we can. So thanks for writing...and I hope you find the strength you need. Love, Stella

Paulette I have found you cannot out give our Father. Is it not rewarding and sooo much fun to try???????? Bless You. . . . LaDonna ================== JEREMIAH 33:3

Stella, I have not gotten use to this yet. My husband passed away last September. Everyone is around. Then you are by yourself. One daughter lives in Portland. The other a few blocks away. I see them probably 3 times a week. They are great to me but I do not like being by myself. Judy Stella Roper wrote: > Hi Mary Clyde and All...I can certainly feel for you. I have four > daughters, and a granddaughter and a grandson living here..and others > within two hours.BUT... I had to find a friend to take me to pick up my > car from the shop. I never hear from my granddaughter now...back "When" > I had a job, a bigger house, and I guess, spent more money, they were > always around. After my back surgeries...I can't keep babies too well so > I don't get called..I am not bitter or sad about it...I keep busy, but I > gave my family every spare minute and all my sacrifices was for them, > and now a days things are different...they do not have a minute to > spare. The younger generation, does not make too many personal > sacrifices it seems to me.But I pray they will all be happy and turn out > to be good citizens, and know how to take care of themselves. Stella > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > >

I've heard of folks 'taking care of someone ' in Miami...................Seems like cement shoes were mentioned............*grin* Love, Jeannie ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ On Sat, 7 Jun 2008 11:16:32 -0400 "Smoochie Newton" <smoochieangelpie@gmail.com> writes: > My son called this morning (he lives in Miami), on his way to work. When son found out my sister was making biscuits / gravy he just couldn't stand it. He says he will take care of me "if and when" that becomes necessary > paulette in sw fla usa > just float me to sea on an iceberg Eskimo style.... wait a sec - we > don't > have ice down here...ahhhh, what the hey - just throw me to the > sharks..... ____________________________________________________________ Fabulous Spa Getaway! Enter for your chance to WIN great beauty prizes everyday! http://thirdpartyoffers.juno.com/TGL2141/fc/JKFkuJi7UrpSMi6vNbNvYrjDK39AZY8g5dQhCawxR8GsoeX5AoxJow/

when I feel that my dad has been particularly evil and nothing in the world seems right ... after I talk to my Father....I like to scratch up a few dollars (and lately I'm really scratchin' !!).... buy some things for the homeless people. There is a small wooded area about 1 1/2 miles from me where a small group of homeless have set up camp. Never see them but I can peek into the woods and see the tents. There is one elderly man that lives in his mini-van there too. Some of these people must have families somewhere..... maybe like us.... just cast aside like an old shoe.... not good enough... not wealthy enough...not smart enough. paulette in sw fla usa...... just another old shoe - well, down here I would an old sandal smoochies

Mornin' all..... boy oh boy.... guess we all share similar problems with family. What is odd to me is that I have begged my 81 year old dad to come live with us or even to come visit but no way. I understand that he doesn't want to move but he could easily afford a trip down....and since I now live above my sister, he could have a wonderful time with the both of us. I've been back up north several times but $$$ won't allow that now..... even went up and cleaned dad's backyard and scrubbed his house from top to bottom (ick ick). My brother lives with dad but is no help at all. My son called this morning (he lives in Miami), on his way to work. When son found out my sister was making biscuits / gravy he just couldn't stand it. He says he will take care of me "if and when" that becomes necessary BUT..... egads.... that might mean stickin' me in the closet. I suppose being in the closet won't be too bad if he leaves the door open.... paulette in sw fla usa just float me to sea on an iceberg Eskimo style.... wait a sec - we don't have ice down here...ahhhh, what the hey - just throw me to the sharks..... love and hugs to all xoxoxoxoxo....smoochies On Fri, Jun 6, 2008 at 11:36 PM, LaDonna <mcglocklin@webtv.net> wrote: > Carol, MaryClyde, Stella & Lee, > When I can no longer handle my problems I give them to my Father and > then I get to THINKING and first thing you know I'm trying to help him > solve the problem when I should just back up and listen. I try very > hard to listen to him but I get impatient. > The best place for me to dump my problems is down at the creek or in the > closet. We should all have a prayer closet (no distractions). > I have added one and all on SC to my prayer list. > Blessings to all. . . . > > LaDonna > ================== > JEREMIAH 33:3 > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

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Carol, MaryClyde, Stella & Lee, When I can no longer handle my problems I give them to my Father and then I get to THINKING and first thing you know I'm trying to help him solve the problem when I should just back up and listen. I try very hard to listen to him but I get impatient. The best place for me to dump my problems is down at the creek or in the closet. We should all have a prayer closet (no distractions). I have added one and all on SC to my prayer list. Blessings to all. . . . LaDonna ================== JEREMIAH 33:3

Stella, and Mary Clyde ! I know just how you feel.... You know in the Bible when God told Abraham to get up and go into the country he was sending Him.. Abraham took his father "Tara" and all his Aunts and Uncles.. Lot was his Nephew.. You sure don`t see that now.. My youngest son said Mom you`ll never have to go to an old folks home BUT he and his wife put his mother inlaw into a old folks home the other day.. Things arent the way there suppose to be are they ?? Love Carol ----- Original Message ----- From: "Stella Roper" <busmar1852@webtv.net> To: <southern-chat@rootsweb.com> Sent: Friday, June 06, 2008 7:16 PM Subject: [SOUTHERN-CHAT] Feeling Used By Family Members > Hi Mary Clyde and All...I can certainly feel for you. I have four > daughters, and a granddaughter and a grandson living here..and others > within two hours.BUT... I had to find a friend to take me to pick up my > car from the shop. I never hear from my granddaughter now...back "When" > I had a job, a bigger house, and I guess, spent more money, they were > always around. After my back surgeries...I can't keep babies too well so > I don't get called..I am not bitter or sad about it...I keep busy, but I > gave my family every spare minute and all my sacrifices was for them, > and now a days things are different...they do not have a minute to > spare. The younger generation, does not make too many personal > sacrifices it seems to me.But I pray they will all be happy and turn out > to be good citizens, and know how to take care of themselves. Stella > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > --- avast! Antivirus: Outbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 080607-0, 06/07/2008 Tested on: 6/6/2008 9:36:00 PM avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2008 ALWIL Software. http://www.avast.com

Hi Mary Clyde and All...I can certainly feel for you. I have four daughters, and a granddaughter and a grandson living here..and others within two hours.BUT... I had to find a friend to take me to pick up my car from the shop. I never hear from my granddaughter now...back "When" I had a job, a bigger house, and I guess, spent more money, they were always around. After my back surgeries...I can't keep babies too well so I don't get called..I am not bitter or sad about it...I keep busy, but I gave my family every spare minute and all my sacrifices was for them, and now a days things are different...they do not have a minute to spare. The younger generation, does not make too many personal sacrifices it seems to me.But I pray they will all be happy and turn out to be good citizens, and know how to take care of themselves. Stella

Hey y'all, Sometimes you can't get away from "things"... My younger son lives about 2 hours away but doesn't come by to see me unless his daughter is leaving for or coming back from California to spend time with her mother... soooooo... She leaves early in the morning sooooo...they need a place to spend the night and guess where they're going. They'll have to get up about 6 am or earlier and will expect breakfast, etc. Sometimes I wonder!!! Oh well, it'll all work out somehow. But sometimes I feel used... Know what I mean?? I'm just having a bad day... MaryClyde ----- Original Message ----- From: "Carol Hall" <lola5341@setel.com> To: <southern-chat@rootsweb.com> Sent: Thursday, June 05, 2008 11:29 PM Subject: Re: [SOUTHERN-CHAT] --THINKING > Stella, > I enjoyed reading this so much.. > You just gave me some ideas as where to go and think... > Love Carol > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Stella Roper" <busmar1852@webtv.net> > To: <southern-chat@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Thursday, June 05, 2008 9:47 AM > Subject: Re: [SOUTHERN-CHAT] sam and ella taters.. TOMATOES > > >> Carol, a lot of us feel despondent I think, this week, thinking of the >> uncertain future...after seeing things that affect our lives go from >> bad to worse lately. But we will have to take whatever comes. A group >> of people in this country are 'bigger' than us. Maybe fewer in number, >> but "bigger" Try to feel better. My hopes are above all this >> racket...Love you...Stella >> >> >> ------------------------------- >> To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without >> the >> quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > > > --- > avast! Antivirus: Outbound message clean. > Virus Database (VPS): 080605-1, 06/05/2008 > Tested on: 6/5/2008 11:29:34 PM > avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2008 ALWIL Software. > http://www.avast.com > > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > --- > avast! Antivirus: Inbound message clean. > Virus Database (VPS): 080531-1, 05/31/2008 > Tested on: 6/6/2008 10:42:16 AM > avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2008 ALWIL Software. > http://www.avast.com > > >

Stella, I enjoyed reading this so much.. You just gave me some ideas as where to go and think... Love Carol ----- Original Message ----- From: "Stella Roper" <busmar1852@webtv.net> To: <southern-chat@rootsweb.com> Sent: Thursday, June 05, 2008 9:47 AM Subject: Re: [SOUTHERN-CHAT] sam and ella taters.. TOMATOES > Carol, a lot of us feel despondent I think, this week, thinking of the > uncertain future...after seeing things that affect our lives go from > bad to worse lately. But we will have to take whatever comes. A group > of people in this country are 'bigger' than us. Maybe fewer in number, > but "bigger" Try to feel better. My hopes are above all this > racket...Love you...Stella > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > --- avast! Antivirus: Outbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 080605-1, 06/05/2008 Tested on: 6/5/2008 11:29:34 PM avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2008 ALWIL Software. http://www.avast.com

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we have a fruit down here called sapote.... it tastes just like chocolate...honest....it is mushy and black inside. believe it or not, it's actually healthy...... paulette in sw fla usa i'll take the black sapote but you can keep the black maters

when i need a secret place i go to the shell beach and walk away from everyone (well, unless the nekkid people get there first)..... paulette in sw fla usa so much racket and me without earplugs xoxoxoxoxo and hugs On Thu, Jun 5, 2008 at 6:01 PM, Carol Hall <lola5341@setel.com> wrote: > Stella, > you hit the nail on the head... > would`nt it be nice to have a secret garden to go to and set and think and > pray-a place that was just yours that no one knows about.. > Thanks for understanding! > Love Carol > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Stella Roper" <busmar1852@webtv.net> > To: <southern-chat@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Thursday, June 05, 2008 9:47 AM > Subject: Re: [SOUTHERN-CHAT] sam and ella taters.. TOMATOES > > > > Carol, a lot of us feel despondent I think, this week, thinking of the > > uncertain future...after seeing things that affect our lives go from > > bad to worse lately. But we will have to take whatever comes. A group > > of people in this country are 'bigger' than us. Maybe fewer in number, > > but "bigger" Try to feel better. My hopes are above all this > > racket...Love you...Stella > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

don't think you could have asked for better... paulette in sw fla usa homegrown green beans sounds sooooo goood.... w/cornbread On Thu, Jun 5, 2008 at 6:17 PM, Stella Roper <busmar1852@webtv.net> wrote: > I haven't found any black inside fruits yet but did a whole sack of the > yellow potatoes. I think they had been frozen...it was back when it was > cold in places.I buy apples and bananas mostly, and cantaloupes, > blueberries and strawberries. > I told you all about speaking to several farmers in the county about > buying produce. I really was thnking of...like bushels, of purple hull > peas, butter beans, green beans etc. Welll today about eleven...a > daughter of one of the persons, called me. She said she had gathered me > up some stuff and would bring it when they came into town, about 2. So I > asked what it was...sh said green beans, new potatoes, yellow squash, > green Zuukinni (ms) and a large cabbage head.Said it would be 20.00. I > hated not to take it after calling...so I said OK. They didn't get here > till four thirty...and it is five green about 6-8 inches long) zukinni > and 11 gooseneck yellow squash.colander full of red potatoes and I > snapped out over a quart of green beans and a large cabbage head. > So...how did I come out...money wise? and consider it was raised by a > nice family right here in the county and they delivered it. > Stella > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > SOUTHERN-CHAT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >