In a message dated 1/22/2006 6:03:14 AM GMT Standard Time, norcal@telus.net writes: www3.telus.net/artnorma/johnston I think that women came to the house of the dead person to pay their respects, but it would only be men who followed the coffin to the church or the graveyard and they would return to the house where the women had prepared a meal. I attended a funeral in Bowmore in Islay in the early 1970s and went to the service in the Round Church, but it was only men who went to the graveside in the churchyard. Elizabeth McAuslan