This is a multi-part message in MIME format. --part0_909115837_boundary Content-ID: <[email protected]_out.mail.aol.com.1> Content-type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII For whatever it's worth-- A humor-friendly list. Not always welcome, but tolerated. Or embraced! People on this list feel like "family" : personal comments (including humor only) are included and "part" of the dynamics on this list. This is the list that uses "NGI" in subject area so people wh don't want to read "non-genealogival info" can skip--also some people subscribe in Digest mode so they can pick what they read...For whatever it's worth... << A listmember wrote: << I enjoy the quipping as much as the genealogy. Even though I don't often join in, I enjoy reading about someone's grand baby or vacation, and it is nice to be able to send sympathy when appropriate. After reading the forwarded message today about how the other list handles it, I thought I'd just let you know my "humble" opinion. I know we need to be "genealogy" minded, but at the same time we are "family" and the best way to get to know one another is with the personal trivia. If members form cliques for the fun stuff, we won't be a family anymore. I'm glad our list members have been open to using "NGI" so we don't have to read if we don't want to (although I open and quickly look at anyway), but the choice remains ours. Thanks for being willing to let the list kind of go with the flow. >> Thank you for sharing your opinion of the list. I have been wondering how to respond, or even whether to respond, to this latest suggestion that this list should conform to the mold of some of the other mailing lists. Even though I knew how some people would feel, it's the "silent majority" who have not expressed an opinion either privately or publicly that I worry about. I don't really care about being popular, but I do care about keeping the list running in the direction the majority want it to go. I don't want to lose the majority for the sake of the few - regardless of which way the voting went. (No Ron, you aren't required ( or allowed ) to leave!!! And neither is anyone else! <grin>) Sometimes the chatter gets to me, too, especially if I've got a backlog of mail to answer or at least try to wade through. But then I think about all the times I've felt better for a bit of "inconsequential chatter" which brings a lot of sharing, caring, humorous humanity to lighten the end of a miserable day. I don't want to end up in another dog fight over what is and what is not allowed on the list, so I think sometimes that I will just keep quiet and see how it goes. On the other hand, I wonder how many people are so wrapped up in the past they can't seem to realize what they are missing when they try to restrict a list to just strictly genealogy and history? Are we not making tomorrows history today? After all, isn't it those old letters full of "inconsequential chatter" of sharing family and community news and gossip that our ancestors wrote so long ago that mean so much to us now? If we fail to leave such things for our descendants, how will they come to 'know" us and form an opinion of the type of people we were? And yes, email is still mail, and just as valuable as anything written with pen and paper. And sometimes sharing those tidbits of family stories and memories will jog a long forgotten bit of information (otherwise known as a clue!) to come to the top of our consciousness or give us a fresh perspective on that brick wall. Wishing you all a wonderful week and beautiful weekend. Kathye >> --part0_909115837_boundary Content-ID: <[email protected]_out.mail.aol.com.2> Content-type: message/rfc822 Content-transfer-encoding: 7bit Content-disposition: inline Return-Path: <[email protected]> Received: from rly-za03.mx.aol.com (rly-za03.mail.aol.com [172.31.36.99]) by air-za05.mail.aol.com (v50.22) with SMTP; Wed, 21 Oct 1998 23:00:21 -0400 Received: from bl-14.rootsweb.com (bl-14.rootsweb.com [204.212.38.30]) by rly-za03.mx.aol.com (8.8.8/8.8.5/AOL-4.0.0) with ESMTP id WAA01290; Wed, 21 Oct 1998 22:59:43 -0400 (EDT) Received: (from [email protected]) by bl-14.rootsweb.com (8.8.5/8.8.5) id TAA16131; Wed, 21 Oct 1998 19:58:07 -0700 (PDT) Resent-Date: Wed, 21 Oct 1998 19:58:07 -0700 (PDT) From: [email protected] Message-ID: <[email protected]> Date: Wed, 21 Oct 1998 22:50:11 EDT Old-To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [RUTLEDGE-L] (NGI)Fwd: Policy statement from listmanager X-Mailer: AOL 4.0 for Windows 95 sub 224 Resent-Message-ID: <"WqeDRD.A.07D.-8pL2"@bl-14.rootsweb.com> To: [email protected] Resent-From: [email protected] Reply-To: RUTLEDG[email protected] X-Mailing-List: <[email protected]> archive/latest/5456 X-Loop: [email protected] Precedence: list Resent-Sender: [email protected] Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII Content-transfer-encoding: 7bit A listmember wrote: << I enjoy the quipping as much as the genealogy. Even though I don't often join in, I enjoy reading about someone's grand baby or vacation, and it is nice to be able to send sympathy when appropriate. After reading the forwarded message today about how the other list handles it, I thought I'd just let you know my "humble" opinion. I know we need to be "genealogy" minded, but at the same time we are "family" and the best way to get to know one another is with the personal trivia. If members form cliques for the fun stuff, we won't be a family anymore. I'm glad our list members have been open to using "NGI" so we don't have to read if we don't want to (although I open and quickly look at anyway), but the choice remains ours. Thanks for being willing to let the list kind of go with the flow. >> Thank you for sharing your opinion of the list. I have been wondering how to respond, or even whether to respond, to this latest suggestion that this list should conform to the mold of some of the other mailing lists. Even though I knew how some people would feel, it's the "silent majority" who have not expressed an opinion either privately or publicly that I worry about. I don't really care about being popular, but I do care about keeping the list running in the direction the majority want it to go. I don't want to lose the majority for the sake of the few - regardless of which way the voting went. (No Ron, you aren't required ( or allowed ) to leave!!! And neither is anyone else! <grin>) Sometimes the chatter gets to me, too, especially if I've got a backlog of mail to answer or at least try to wade through. But then I think about all the times I've felt better for a bit of "inconsequential chatter" which brings a lot of sharing, caring, humorous humanity to lighten the end of a miserable day. I don't want to end up in another dog fight over what is and what is not allowed on the list, so I think sometimes that I will just keep quiet and see how it goes. On the other hand, I wonder how many people are so wrapped up in the past they can't seem to realize what they are missing when they try to restrict a list to just strictly genealogy and history? Are we not making tomorrows history today? After all, isn't it those old letters full of "inconsequential chatter" of sharing family and community news and gossip that our ancestors wrote so long ago that mean so much to us now? If we fail to leave such things for our descendants, how will they come to 'know" us and form an opinion of the type of people we were? And yes, email is still mail, and just as valuable as anything written with pen and paper. And sometimes sharing those tidbits of family stories and memories will jog a long forgotten bit of information (otherwise known as a clue!) to come to the top of our consciousness or give us a fresh perspective on that brick wall. Wishing you all a wonderful week and beautiful weekend. 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