No, Friends did not require parents to cut off ties with children who had lost their membership. I have seen one case recorded in the journal of a New Work minister, Eleazar Haviland, in the early 1820s of a father who refused to speak to a son who had married out of meeting. Eleazar felt led to visit the father and try to convince him that he was wrong. A parent could choose to leave a child out of the will for any reason, but that was not a Quaker requirement. Tom Hamm If a son of a Quaker family chose to leave the Society, what would happen > to > his family associations? Would he be dead to the family, as in some > religions? If the family made a will, would he be excluded from that will? > Sue > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

Quakers who lost their membership were not shunned or anything like that in fact many still attended regular meeting and may be readmitted at some later date. My great grandparents John White and Jane Lydia Newlin were dropped from membership for misconduct at their Marriage and they later are charter members of a new meeting Middle River Meeting in Iowa. James Lawton 505 Beech St. Box 80 Boxholm, IA (515) 846-6221 [email protected] -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of [email protected] Sent: Saturday, January 10, 2009 10:01 AM To: Sue Maxwell Cc: Quaker-Roots mailing list Subject: Re: [Q-R] Disowned Children and Their Parents No, Friends did not require parents to cut off ties with children who had lost their membership. I have seen one case recorded in the journal of a New Work minister, Eleazar Haviland, in the early 1820s of a father who refused to speak to a son who had married out of meeting. Eleazar felt led to visit the father and try to convince him that he was wrong. A parent could choose to leave a child out of the will for any reason, but that was not a Quaker requirement. Tom Hamm If a son of a Quaker family chose to leave the Society, what would happen > to > his family associations? Would he be dead to the family, as in some > religions? If the family made a will, would he be excluded from that will? > Sue > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message