Argh! Sometimes it would be handy if there was a rubber band attached to these message so you could pull it back quickly and make corrections. Originally sent just to Tom, when I intended for it to go to the list. And sign my name. Alice Allen ---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: Alice Allen <[email protected]> Date: Sun, Jan 11, 2009 at 4:46 PM Subject: Re: [Q-R] Getting booted from the Society (disownment) To: [email protected] And something that was explained to me years ago on this list, was that they could still retain their membership, or regain it if they were disowned, if a sincere apology was proffered. Of course, it was tricky to acknowledge that one made a mistake in marrying out without also saying they regretted whom they married <g> On Sun, Jan 11, 2009 at 3:16 PM, <[email protected]> wrote: > This is an interesting question. We need to keep a couple of things in mind. > <snip> > > Until the late nineteenth century, divorce was an offense against the > Discipline of Friends as much as marriage out of a meeting. Marriage was > binding no matter whether it took place in meeting or not. Disowned > Friends were free to attend meetings for worship, and, if they were > willing to acknowledge that they had violated the rules and regretted it, > they could regain membership. Spouses could be become members at request > as well. ><snip>