Dear Rita, Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences about the holidays. There are many who have had similar experiences as a result of divorce or death. It is heartwarming to know that special someone may show up in one's life at any time and transform the holidays into a joyous experience again. Congratulations on your marriage and new family. Happy holidays to all! Sincerely, Sharon Doyle Houston TX SSdoyle1@aol.com (Divorced for 12+ years)