List, I have to agree here. I am one of the younger generations who is searching for my roots, and I am disappointed in what I have heard. Whether we like it or not, we are family and I was always taught that we accept each other no matter what. The submission was very insightful and true. The truth hurts. I am still trying to figure out what was so bad about it. I am unsubcribing from this list because I cannot accept the behavior that I have witnessed. If a group of people cannot be laid back or civil enough to simply read what someone wrote without going ballistic, then I do not belong with them. I know that this is a GENEALOGY mailing list. However, this is also a place for the Payne family to gather. I think that it is nice to hear the opinions and stories that others tell because it gives us all an idea of what each family member is like. Most likely, several of us will never meet, and this may be the only way to learn about each other. I compare it to sitting around and talking to my grandfather about life. How sad that no one else can see that. I think that I will stick with the mailing lists, or families, that appreciate good conversations and respect each other enough to listen to them. They do not mind learning or listening to each other because, after all, their family. Jill Hagelin Debbie Carter wrote: > I personally enjoyed the piece you sent in. In dealing with genealogy I have > learned to think about others thoughts and feelings. > I have sat through MANY,MANY mailings of others that had absolutely nothing > to do with genealogy and even a few of a very personal nature and have not > complained to the extent I have seen over this. > Mr Payne expressed AN OPINION. > He didn't commit a crime,when I reach the point that I cannot listen > politely to others viewpoints as I was taught to do as a child, then it is > time for me to move to a communist country where nobody is allowed to have > opinions and thoughts. > If we didn't listen to some of the seniors opinions and thoughts, alot of us > would miss a great deal of the oral family history that they possess and > that make genealogy interesting. > Debra Carter