This is a message I just read that was posted by Ellen Ballas, I have made no comments about the obits posted here on the list, HOWEVER I FEEL IT GREAT THAT THEY ARE BEING POSTED! However this person Ellen Ballas has gone to far in posting this message and making comments toward me on this list! Ellen Ballas need to remove herself from this list, if she can't take the heat in the kitchen, meaning the obits should stay and Ellen Balls should leave! John Yanik ----- Original Message ----- From: "Ellen Ballas" <ellen@b-n-s.com> To: <PAFAYETT-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2004 3:57 PM Subject: RE: [PAFAY] Obits- LISTEN UP!! > Dear Ed, > This is Ellen (ETHS) here & not Ellen Levy. I had just > written a reply to the site after only reading part of the > messages on here. I have no problem with the obits on here > at all. However, I have noticed some things & would like to > try to help you be constructive about the future of this > site, which is a good one. Please read over what I wrote & > maybe we can work together privately as people who know a > bit more about what's going on, the purpose of the site, > etc. You & I have disagreed more than once & I've come very > close to unsubscribing. > > Also - on a personal note - people that don't know you very > well react differently to remarks made on here. I know your > heart is in the right place & that sometimes you are just > trying to get the point across, but diplomacy & sugar works > a lot better on the "nice people" on here. Save the "Make > My Day" remarks for the private pains in the you know what! > I'm saying this as a friendly senior citizen who has raised > 5 children & have quite a few grandchildren. Also who has > been a good leader in organizations in this state. > I've received mail privately from some very nice people. > You have really come off to some on here that have > unsubscribed as being some kind of heavy-handed > egositistical show-off who's trying to feel like "Da Boss" > as I hear on here. If you are really a caring person about > this site, you don't want to do that. It's not the right > way to go at all. You can be firm but still be a perfect > gentlemen about it & will certainly come off as a better > leader for it. BTW - I think the term is List Master & not > List Owner (or am I wrong). If you can tolerate > Bailey/Yanick on here I think you must be a good friend of > his. My opinion of him is very very low. Either he's low > on the intelligence pole, a mental case, or just a plain > obnoxious immature kid. > Let's hope this communication is going to be constructive > & for the good of the list. If not, I won't hesitate to > unsubscribe myself. > Regards, Ellen (ETHS) > > -----Original Message----- > From: Edward [mailto:genedoc@icubed.com] > Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2004 3:33 PM > To: PAFAYETT-L@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [PAFAY] Obits- LISTEN UP!! > > > Hi Ellen and others, > > The complaints about receiving > obituaries on this list > is a dead issue. I handled this properly last week, and the > thread ended. I > gave what options I knew existed. Those were the > comprimises. > > Let this be a warning for all who want > to keep harping > about obituaries. They are on topic and perfectly acceptable > for this list, > and I am going to start unsubscribing anyone who fans the > flames of this > issue. I would imagine that three weeks in the reject hole > should bring > about a positive change in attitude. > > Make my day! > > > Edward Dunlevy > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "ellen Levy" <ellenlevy66@yahoo.com> > To: <PAFAYETT-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2004 2:53 PM > Subject: Re: [PAFAY] Obits > > > > Hi Everyone. What I am finding in this discussion is a > lack of compromise > on the part of some people. > > > > Just because you find the obits useful or interesting does > mean they are > not cumbersome to others on this list. And just because you > find the obits > overwhelming or uninteresting doesn't mean that others > aren't interested in > receiving them regularly as a part of this list. There > seems to be plenty > of people in both of these camps. > > > > You all need to try to see a bit from the other's > perspective and make > some COMPROMISES (isn't this what all good relationships are > about??!!)! I > can't necessarily say what that compromise should be, but I > think it would > be proper for the administrator of this list to take > everyone's opinions > into consideration and decide what an appropriate compromise > should be. > > > > Some of the compromise solutions that others have posted > that may work: > posting the obits only once a day, or maybe combining them > in a few postings > with some sort of index, so that people still receive them > daily but they > don't become cumbersome to those who aren't as interested. > COMPROMISE. > > > > Please, people, we are all genealogists here -let's try to > work > respectfully together. > > > > Ellen > > > > Jo Gottman <kgottman1@cox.net> wrote: > > NO NO NO I might find someone related to my GOTTMAN > family. > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: " JRuse" > > To: > > > > Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2004 9:23 AM > > Subject: [PAFAY] Obits > > > > > > > Today my mailbox held 30 messages from this list, of > which 29 were > obits. > > > This is getting a bit excessive. Does anyone agree? > > > > > > Of course I can delete them. There must be some way to > get them into an > > > accessible archive than to post them on the list. > > > > > > Joan Ruse > > > > > > > > > ==== PAFAYETT Mailing List ==== > > > The Fayette County Genealogical Society- > > http://www.hhs.net/sss/fayette/fcgsinfo.htm > > > Fayette County Archives- > > http://www.rootsweb.com/~usgenweb/pa/fayette/index.htm > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ==== PAFAYETT Mailing List ==== > > The Uniontown Library NEW URL- > http://www.uniontownlib.org/ > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Do you Yahoo!? > > Yahoo! SiteBuilder - Free web site building tool. 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