Hi Lynn and List,    I told Bryan last night. He was a bit upset but took it much better than I thought. We spoke with his sister in OH and she did not know either. I emailed the funeral home and received a reply this morning. They said they went ahead and performed the cremation as all the authorizations were there. I hope they know to hold the ashes and not let any of the other family take it. I called the OH sis and let her know the latest news and Bryan has his phone off so I can't tell him until he calls or comes home tonight.    Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers. This has been a difficult time. Made much more difficult by being 1,000 miles away and all the lies we are told. I'm crossing my fingers that all is settled and the worst is over.   tracy --- On Thu, 1/29/09, Lynn wrote: Hi Tracy, I'll be praying for you, and for Bryan, too, as you tell him tonight. Surely hope he doesn't get too hurt, though I'm sure he will. But, yes, you must just tell him_don't let it go any longer than tonight. Sorry to hear that you have this in your family. Praying for your calmness in telling him, and praying for the way he receives it. Hope they get this done soon. That is so horrible, that they haven't taken care of their part of the payment yet.