Grief is a difficult thing, and everyone does it differently. Mostly, I have found, even when you think you are dealing with reasonable persons, they can get pretty stupid when it comes to dealing with money issues involving grief. What people don't get is that money doesn't make you happy. Sometimes it makes things easier, in one respect, but often it just adds other problems. If someone really thinks money will make them happy---my feeling is---go ahead, take it, it certainly is not important enough to threaten violence over. And things, while they can have monetary value and a lot of sentimental value, are just things. Things that can be replaced, or thought of in memory, but truthfully, are not worth the fighting either. I have seen it too many times and it breaks my heart each time, and usually breaks up families---all because someone is greedy, someone is trying to get a little something more, someone thinks someone owes them something. I've got an uncle who thinks he is happy after cutting people out of his life and taking off with "all the dough because it is his due". Sadly, he is more miserable than before he took off with the stuff, but he thinks he is happy. Trish On Tue, Jan 27, 2009 at 9:44 AM, Becky Sanning <[email protected]> wrote: > The great thing about this list is that we can laugh at each other. And > cry with each other. > I understand the need for the explosion and I understand the anger. When > my father died five years ago, I had two brothers standing in my kitchen > threatening to beat me up and to sue me over an insurance check that they > thought I should share with them even though it had been daddy's directive > that that money come to me. To this date, I have two brothers that will not > talk to me and another that only calls once a year. I do sympathize. > > Becky > > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >