Now I just received an email from the funeral home. They did NOT do the cremation yet and have only received money from Bryan and I. They will only proceed with the cremation after more money is received. The sister said she had some money to add but hasn't yet. Now I don't know what to tell Bryan. He will be so very upset to learn about the cremation not taking place. It's beyond my understanding how the family can lie about everything. I guess I just wait until he asks and then tell him the truth.   tracy   --- On Tue, 1/27/09, Connie wrote: I knew it would settle down at some point.  Unfortunately, it did not happen in my husbands family.  I think all families have some issues eventually.   

Oh my! How can they lie about something like that. Hope this is all settled for you soon. Hope this doesn't start something between you and Bryan, if he would find out that you knew about it, but didn't tell him. Yes, it would be rather hard to tell him, but....hmmmmm. Hugs! Lynn Tracy wrote:o( Now I just received an email from the funeral home. They did NOT do the cremation yet and have only received money from Bryan and I. They will only proceed with the cremation after more money is received. The sister said she had some money to add but hasn't yet. Now I don't know what to tell Bryan. He will be so very upset to learn about the cremation not taking place. It's beyond my understanding how the family can lie about everything. I guess I just wait until he asks and then tell him the truth.

Tracy, I think you need to sit Bryan down and let him know what is going on. Don't wait for him to ask you. He'll be doubly upset if you keep it from him. He needs to be able to trust you without any question in his mind. You have shown him that you have always been up front and honest with him, unlike his own family. Don't change that now. I am afraid that it would only cause harm to your relationship. I know he is very upset already, but he really does need to know the truth. Just do it as gently as you can.... Hugs, Mary -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Tracy Sent: Wednesday, January 28, 2009 1:05 PM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [PD-LIFE] /family grief Now I just received an email from the funeral home. They did NOT do the cremation yet and have only received money from Bryan and I. They will only proceed with the cremation after more money is received. The sister said she had some money to add but hasn't yet. Now I don't know what to tell Bryan. He will be so very upset to learn about the cremation not taking place. It's beyond my understanding how the family can lie about everything. I guess I just wait until he asks and then tell him the truth.   tracy   --- On Tue, 1/27/09, Connie wrote: I knew it would settle down at some point.  Unfortunately, it did not happen in my husbands family.  I think all families have some issues eventually.    ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Thanks Mary. That is what I will do tonight. It is just so hard knowing I will cause him so much grief.   tracy --- On Wed, 1/28/09, Mary wrote: I think you need to sit Bryan down and let him know what is going on. Don't wait for him to ask you. He'll be doubly upset if you keep it from him. He needs to be able to trust you without any question in his mind. You have shown him that you have always been up front and honest with him, unlike his own family. Don't change that now. I am afraid that it would only cause harm to your relationship. I know he is very upset already, but he really does need to know the truth. Just do it as gently as you can....