How come you didn't say anything or become "sickened"when someone, ON THE LIST" said that I had well earned the"nickname" of nasty, etc........ did you just happen to "miss" that one, or doesn't that count? Several others certainly "caught " it, and emailed that they were surprised that sort of thing was allowed. Is what I say, in answer to a rude email to me privately, which I certainly did "share" with the list, any of your, or anyone else's business? And, may I assure you that she has edited her lengthy email to me, simply to make more trouble by deleting most of what she said? Did you want me to send this private email to the list? I guess the rules around here are that some are allowed to be verbally insulted on the list, while others breach privacy with altered messages and are the "injured party".....who thinks that is fair? Raise your hands please! The whole business WAS dropped before this woman started up again, emailed me, the list, and then embroiled everyone in her web of deceit and troublemaking. -----Original Message----- From: Mary Harris <mhharris@pcbank.net> To: PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com <PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com> Date: Saturday, July 29, 2000 12:07 AM Subject: [ADMIN] [PACHESTE] Query Weary: Much Ado About (Almost) Nothing >This entire subject needs to be dropped now. And apparently, a number of >people, on both sides, need to be reminded that posting private emails, >regardless of their content, to this list, without the permission of the >writer, is a violation of privacy, at the very least. > >I don't believe that any amount of good works that we do by sharing our >knowledge with each other justifies being rude or intolerant to each other. >Though I very obviously cannot control the email messages that are sent >privately by members of this list, I can and do state emphatically that such >behavior sickens me and will not be tolerated on this list. I urge each and >every one of you to be patient and tolerant of each other, both publicly and >privately. > >If a posted message is not to one's liking, consider using the delete key >rather than firing off an impassioned message in response. And, if one >becomes weary of the type of queries received when acting as a volunteer, >consider easing back on the amount of volunteer work offered. And to those >of you who ask others for information, please, please provide as much detail >as possible and remember that you are dealing with a volunteer, not a paid >worker. It is the very active volunteers of this list, and so many others >like it, that have helped to make the online genealogy community the >wonderful asset that it is. This list is a valuable resource for many, many >people; it would be a shame if a newcomer to this list saw the recent >behavior here as being typical of us as a group. Let's regain our better >natures and move on, please. > >-Mary Harris, listowner PACHESTE-L > > >----- Original Message ----- >From: <LEXIEDRISC@aol.com> >To: <PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com> >Sent: Friday, July 28, 2000 11:11 PM >Subject: Fwd: [PACHESTE] Query Weary: Much Ado About (Almost) Nothing > > >> >> --part1_6a.52b3adc.26b3a56c_boundary >> Content-Type: text/plain; charset="US-ASCII" >> Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit >> >> This is what I received and why I really feel the need to move on. >> Peace to all. Lexie >> >> --part1_6a.52b3adc.26b3a56c_boundary >> Content-Type: message/rfc822 >> Content-Disposition: inline >> >> Return-Path: <ferg@intelos.net> >> Received: from rly-zb03.mx.aol.com (rly-zb03.mail.aol.com [172.31.41.3]) >by air-zb01.mail.aol.com (v75_b3.9) with ESMTP; Thu, 27 Jul 2000 >20:48:34 -0400 >> Received: from moe.intelos.net (moe.intelos.net [216.12.23.230]) by >rly-zb03.mx.aol.com (v75_b3.9) with ESMTP; Thu, 27 Jul 2000 20:47:59 -0400 >> Received: (qmail 27169 invoked from network); 27 Jul 2000 20:47:56 -0400 >> Received: from chas-108-80.intelos.net (HELO ferg.intelos.net) >(216.12.108.80) >> by moe.intelos.net with SMTP; 27 Jul 2000 20:47:56 -0400 >> Message-ID: <002d01bff82d$551acde0$506c0cd8@ferg.intelos.net> >> Reply-To: "Sandra Ferguson" <ferg@intelos.net> >> From: "Sandra Ferguson" <ferg@intelos.net> >> To: <LEXIEDRISC@aol.com> >> Subject: Re: [PACHESTE] Query Weary: Much Ado About (Almost) Nothing >> Date: Thu, 27 Jul 2000 20:46:55 -0400 >> MIME-Version: 1.0 >> Content-Type: text/plain; >> charset="iso-8859-1" >> Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit >> X-Priority: 3 >> X-MSMail-Priority: Normal >> X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 4.72.3612.1700 >> X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V4.72.3612.1700 >> >> when I want your opinion I'll ask.....how about holding your breath till >> then. >> -----Original Message----- >> From: LEXIEDRISC@aol.com <LEXIEDRISC@aol.com> >> To: PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com <PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com> >> Date: Thursday, July 27, 2000 8:28 PM >> Subject: [PACHESTE] Query Weary: Much Ado About (Almost) Nothing >> >> >> >This discussion has probably discouraged many people from posting. That >is >> >very sad because this list has many dedicated and knowledgeable people >who >> >work tirelessly and who provide a wealth of information from their >> extensive >> >genealogical resources. The list should not be a forum for sardonic >> >diatribes or public ridicule. This is not the behaviour of those on >other >> >lists to which I belong. >> > >> >This is from the RootsWeb Welcome page: >> ><ftp://ftp.rootsweb.com/pub/roots-l/roots-l.welcome1> >> >"- Be tolerant of newcomers. None of us were born knowing all. >> > - Do not abuse new users of computer networks for their lack >> > of knowledge. Be patient as they first learn to crawl, then walk." >> >This site also gives great tips on how to post a query but not everyone >> reads >> >everything, and not everyone who reads the guidelines will follow them. >> >Be gentle to those who are learning and try to just ignore those who are >> >discourteous. >> > >> >Signing off the list, Lexie >> > >> > >> >==== PACHESTE Mailing List ==== >> >Stop by our associated website for Chester County Genealogy at >> >http://www.rootsweb.com/~pacheste/chester.htm >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> >> >> --part1_6a.52b3adc.26b3a56c_boundary-- >> >> >> ==== PACHESTE Mailing List ==== >> Stop by our associated website for Chester County Genealogy at >> http://www.rootsweb.com/~pacheste/chester.htm >> >> >> >> >> > > >==== PACHESTE Mailing List ==== >To post a message to this list, send your message to >PACHESTE-L@rootsweb.com > > > > >