Subj: Re: [STINNETT] COUSINS, CUZ SUE'S Message sounds so much like the Kind of Family INFO That is   Date: 7/31/06 2:40:55 PM Central Daylight Time From: cagney@bellsouth.net reply to: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com To: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com Sent from the Internet (Details) You know, while we're on this subject, let me add my 2 cents. I had a distant cousin who wrote a family history a few years ago, and refused to refer to any divorce or anything else "scandalous" because he didn't want to embarrass any descendants.  I was respectful enough not to say it, but I thought it was hogwash!  What our ancestors did has nothing to do with who we are!  I cannot prove my great-grandmother's line because I can find no birth record.  Florence Drewry Stinnett was born in Bedford Co., VA, in April 1880.  On her marriage record, she states her parents were James M. Stinnett and Marinda Drewry.  But James and Marinda are not living together in 1880, and they didn't get married until 1890.  And, of course, Florence is nowhere to be found in the 1880 census.  My mother was irate when I mentioned that her grandmother may have been illegitimate!  I'm still trying to prove the connection. Another example -- my brother Neal dated Lisa for years, then dated Rhonda who he married.  They had a son, and then divorced.  After the divorce, Lisa contacted Neal, and told him that he was the father of her daughter.  She had told him before because she not wanted to come between him and Rhonda. Well, Neal and Lisa began dating again, and have been married for many years now.  I get all kinds of questions when I submit a genealogy report, saying that the middle child has another mother.  "Aren't you making a mistake in ages?  . . . in birth order?"  Etc., etc., etc. The only thing that made me angry was when a 2nd cousin submitted a genealogy report to a website and left my sister off -- because she was adopted!  I was livid!  She is as much a sister to me as my other sisters, and since she was orphaned in Korea, we are the only family she has!  I let him know how I felt! All families have little things like divorce or illegitimacy, but it should not bother anyone.  That's life! Jean Spradlin-Miller < ALSO FOR, Elusive- BarbKeithBaily> This is from OUR Stinnett Cousin in Birmingham ALA & A perfect example, of What MISGUIDED Pace Cousin misinterpreted. CUZ A T