Since our message boards have to do with our genealogy, let me add that all adopted children should be added to the family listing--but there should be a notation that the individual was adopted, or twenty years later someone is going to insist the wrong information was given because there was another child in that family. HOWEVER, since genealogy has to do with blood lines, the descendants of that adoptee should not be included. They can be listed under a narrative or shown in some other fashion, but if you try to pretend they are of your blood line then down the road you can come out with mass confusion! We already are seeing some of that confusion when DNA results don't match the family and we need to accept that no matter how loved that adopted child may be--his/her blood line is not the same as ours! Marian ----- Original Message ----- From: <Atpowelljr@aol.com> To: <PACE-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Monday, July 31, 2006 3:01 PM Subject: [PACE-L] CUZ ANN the Copy to is that MISGUIDED Pace Cousin & she/He gave a BOGAS E-ADDY > Subj: Re: [STINNETT] COUSINS, CUZ SUE'S Message sounds so much like the > Kind of Family INFO That is > Date: 7/31/06 2:40:55 PM Central Daylight Time > From: cagney@bellsouth.net > reply to: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com > To: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com > Sent from the Internet (Details) > The only thing that made me angry was when a 2nd cousin submitted a > genealogy report to a website and left my sister off -- because she was > adopted! I was livid! She is as much a sister to me as my other sisters, > and since she was orphaned in Korea, we are the only family she has! I let > him know how I felt! > > All families have little things like divorce or illegitimacy, but it > should > not bother anyone. That's life! > > Jean Spradlin-Miller > < ALSO FOR, Elusive- BarbKeithBaily> > >

I cannot say I agree that the decedents of the adoptee should not be included in the family tree line. My grandmother, who is my Pace descendant through Rebecca PACE Bradford *Aycock* & her brother William Pace, was not able to have children because of necessary medical surgery when she was only 21. She wrote Papa explaining this to him, who at the time was on the Conyingham out in the Pacific Campaign, & that she would understand if he rather marry someone that could naturally provide him children. Papa wrote Meme back saying that could & would adopt. If Meme & Papa had not adopted their children, I would not be here, my cousins would not be here, their great-grandchildren, or our parents. To just put us as a sidebar is like saying, well their parents were adopted so they are not REALLY relatives. No, we are not blood related but we research the Pace line & our other lines for we are relatives & have never been treated otherwise. Any two people can have a child, but it takes a family to raise a child or children. Yes, a notation should be made so not to cause confusion, but the adoptees children & down the line should not be just cast aside like they do not matter. I am sorry if this sounds rude, but this brings back the memories of the taboo of adoption which was frequent when Dad, his sister & brother were growing-up & still gets under my craw. Sincerely, Lena Marian Dunlap <mdunlap@consolidated.net> wrote: Since our message boards have to do with our genealogy, let me add that all adopted children should be added to the family listing--but there should be a notation that the individual was adopted, or twenty years later someone is going to insist the wrong information was given because there was another child in that family. HOWEVER, since genealogy has to do with blood lines, the descendants of that adoptee should not be included. They can be listed under a narrative or shown in some other fashion, but if you try to pretend they are of your blood line then down the road you can come out with mass confusion! We already are seeing some of that confusion when DNA results don't match the family and we need to accept that no matter how loved that adopted child may be--his/her blood line is not the same as ours! Marian ----- Original Message ----- From: To: Sent: Monday, July 31, 2006 3:01 PM Subject: [PACE-L] CUZ ANN the Copy to is that MISGUIDED Pace Cousin & she/He gave a BOGAS E-ADDY > Subj: Re: [STINNETT] COUSINS, CUZ SUE'S Message sounds so much like the > Kind of Family INFO That is > Date: 7/31/06 2:40:55 PM Central Daylight Time > From: cagney@bellsouth.net > reply to: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com > To: STINNETT-L@rootsweb.com > Sent from the Internet (Details) > The only thing that made me angry was when a 2nd cousin submitted a > genealogy report to a website and left my sister off -- because she was > adopted! I was livid! She is as much a sister to me as my other sisters, > and since she was orphaned in Korea, we are the only family she has! I let > him know how I felt! > > All families have little things like divorce or illegitimacy, but it > should > not bother anyone. That's life! > > Jean Spradlin-Miller > < ALSO FOR, Elusive- BarbKeithBaily> > > ==== PACE Mailing List ==== Be sure to check the Pace Family Genealogy Forum at http://genforum.com/pace/ and the Pace Network at http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~pace --------------------------------- Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less.