Carol, There really is no other way to do a look up of a grave in Calvary other than to ask the cemetery office just as you did. If I may make two suggestions: Send a letter to the Cemetery office. Call the executrix again, tell her what happened when you called the cemetery and ask her if she would please give you a copy of the death certificate. If you were not named in the will, she is not obligated to do so, but she might. Elizabeth V. Cardinal evc1369@comcast.net http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/Garden/4548/