>>>It would seem that Phobe accepted the infant deaths as a common occurrance. Something we would view as unthinkable today.<<< I've been on various genealogy lists for about 5 years, now. One thing I see on almost all of them, time after time, is the question, "Why were they so cold and undemonstrative?" Usually speaking of grandparents, sometimes parents. My sister has asked me the same question. One of my grandmothers lost two children under the age of 1, the other lost a little sister, about a year old, when she was 13. If you knew that the chances were 50/50 that you were going to lose each child, how much of yourself could you invest in that child?