Vee you wrote - >" Dear Lorraine, > > Thanks for letting me know that you can warmly relate to what I said. I'm > also glad that you have treasured memories of your own mother. They're > wonderful, aren't they? > vee" Your mother/daughter relationship memories made me realize that although I didn't have those same kind - as my mom wasn't a hugging, cuddling type, she did love me in her way. I've learned that you can't give what you don't have. For example my big sis used to watch the old TV show "The Waltons" with the "good nights" they called out to one another at the show's end and wondered why our family didn't have that kind of relationship. Parents who like and love each, well it flows down onto the children. We didn't have that kind of parents, though they did the best they could with what they knew. Thanks for sharing your memories Vee ! Evelyn

Evelyn wrote, > Your mother/daughter relationship memories made me realize that although I > didn't have those same kind - as my mom wasn't a hugging, cuddling type, > she > did love me in her way. I've learned that you can't give what you don't > have. For example my big sis used to watch the old TV show "The Waltons" > with the "good nights" they called out to one another at the show's end > and > wondered why our family didn't have that kind of relationship. Parents > who > like and love each, well it flows down onto the children. We didn't have > that kind of parents, though they did the best they could with what they > knew. > > Thanks for sharing your memories Vee ! Dear Evelyn, Regarding my mother being a hugging type other than what I had posted, that's about the only time I can remember her showing me any overt affection until I was waaay grown up. The same goes for my father and both sets of grandparents. I've always felt deprived for the lack of anyone demonstrating love to me. Yes I know what you mean about the Waltons saying good night to each other. Everytime I heard them saying that it made me feel good. Our family never had the opportunity to do that together because we all went to bed at different times. Yes my parents did the best they could, too. Frankly in looking back on my childhood and growing up years, they did a pretty darned good job of raising me. That's why I try to dig up all the positive memories I have to remind me of the subtle way they did show their love. And that's why I'm writing them down. I certainly don't want to remind myself of all of the negative memories. vee