There were only certain grounds you could file on, and perhaps, if it was worked out that your grandfather got custody, other things were worked out as well. maybe something along the lines of "You can have her, but I will have my day in court defaming you." One never knows, but I think it's possible. Theresa > [Original Message] > From: Janet Truncali <truncali@warwick.net> > To: <nynewyor@rootsweb.com> > Date: 7/16/2008 8:03:59 AM > Subject: Re: [NYNEWYOR] Divorce in the 1950s > > Hi, > My pleasure. > Janet > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Elizabeth Martinez-Gibson" <cosette.58@hotmail.com> > To: <nynewyor@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Wednesday, July 16, 2008 7:56 AM > Subject: Re: [NYNEWYOR] Divorce in the 1950s > > > > Thanks Janet. This could be. According to my mother, my grandmother was an > > alcoholic. I was just puzzled that the divorce papers say that my > > grandmother filed based on "cruelty". My mother's stories always painted > > her Dad as a very good man, while her mother would beat her. > > > > Thanks for you help. > > > > > > > >> From: truncali@warwick.net> To: nynewyor@rootsweb.com> Date: Tue, 15 Jul > >> 2008 08:34:47 -0400> Subject: Re: [NYNEWYOR] Divorce in the 1950s> > Hi,> > >> I could be wrong, but if memory serves, I think that if adultery or > > >> abandonment was found that the mother would not get custody.> > >> Janet> ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Elizabeth Martinez-Gibson" > >> <cosette.58@hotmail.com>> To: <nyc-roots@rootsweb.com>; > >> <nynassau@rootsweb.com>; > <nynewyor@rootsweb.com>; > >> <nyqueens@rootsweb.com>; <nysuffol@rootsweb.com>> Sent: Tuesday, July 15, > >> 2008 8:08 AM> Subject: [NYNEWYOR] Divorce in the 1950s> > > > Can anyone > >> comment on the divorce "rules" of the 1950s? I know NY had some > > very > >> conservative ways of dealing with divorce issues.> >> > My grandparents > >> were divorced in 1953 in FL. They were both from NY and > > lived in NY > >> all their lives. In the divorce papers, my grandmother is > > listed as > >> living in FL, grandfather in NY.> >> > What I find strange is the > >> following: grandmother pla! > > intiff, files divorce > > based on cruelty, grandfather, doesn't contest, > > but gets custody of a > > minor child. This seems odd to me that the > > father would get custody in the > > 50s, and especially if the reason for > > divorce was cruelty. Was "cruelty" > > one of the few reasons for divorce? > > Why would the mother not get custody?> >> > I know this is more a > > "history/law type of question, but it is pertinent > > to my genealogy > > studies and I thought one of you may have crossed this > > issue before.> > > > If anyone knows or can shed some light of divorce rules for the 50s, I'd > > > > appreciate it.> >> > Thanks,> >> > Liz> > > > _________________________________________________________________> > > > Making the world a better place one message at a time.> > > > http://www.imtalkathon.com/?source=EML_WLH_Talkathon_BetterPlace> > Jim > > Garrity, List Administrator> > jimgarrity@earthlink.net> > > > -------------------------------> > To unsubscribe from the list, please > > send an email to > > NYNEWYOR-requ! > > est@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in > > the subject and the body of the message> > > > > Jim Garrity, List > > Administrator> jimgarrity@earthlink.net> -------------------------------> > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > NYNEWYOR-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > _________________________________________________________________ > > Stay in touch when you're away with Windows Live Messenger. > > http://www.windowslive.com/messenger/overview.html?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_messeng er2_072008 > > Jim Garrity, List Administrator > > jimgarrity@earthlink.net > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > NYNEWYOR-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > Jim Garrity, List Administrator > jimgarrity@earthlink.net > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to NYNEWYOR-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message