I might be wrong but I think you OWN a burial site once it is purchased. Sounds like the cemetery staff is "squatting" on your land. Quoting Attitudeab@aol.com: > Hi, > I don't know the laws in New York, but in Nevada there must be written > notification to the cemetery from a known relative before a body can > be exhumed for > any reason, and vise versa. > > When my mother died 3 years ago and my brother and I were at the cemetery > arranging the burial plans, my brother suggested we go see the graves of our > grandparents. Well, we searched and searched, and my brother was > certain we were > in the right location, (he is a land surveyor). Too make a long story short, > we went back into the cemetery's office and explained to them that we > couldn't > find or grandparents. Needless to say, there were a lot of "oh, oh looks" > and they assured us that if we could come back they would physically > take us to > the location of their burial. My brother and I went back and looked in the > area that my brother was certain that the bodies were and it was only > then that > we noticed that the wall that once was squared off was now rounded, with > freshly dug dirt, no longer any grass, sprinklers out of the ground, > and so forth. > It was very clear that they had just changed the design of the wall and our > grandparents had been buried in the corner where the two walls met. > > I spoke to the funeral director about this on the day of my mother's burial > three days later and he was quietly chuckling on the phone...and said > something > like "we found them, and when you are here we will show you where they are." > After my mother's funeral we went to the office and they gave us a recently > made plot map and my brother and myself went to the area on the map > that listed > their burial. We found them, but the headstones were brand new, (they have > been buried for over 15 years), there were no nicks from lawn mowers, no > tarnish from weather, nothing, and since they were cremated it would > have been easy > for the cemetery to have moved the headstones and the urn that was positioned > between them. Believe me, the cemetery was sweating what action our family > was going to take. My dad didn't seem to care, and since it was his dad, we > dropped it, but it just goes to show that anything can happen. It > also makes one > wonder what they would have done with the headstones and cremated remains if > it wasn't for such a twist of fate. Just thought I would share, and > good luck > on your quest. > > Debera. > > > ==== NYMADISO Mailing List ==== > To Unsubscribe from this list - send email to - > nymadiso-L-request@rootsweb.com with the single word - unsubscribe in > the body of the email. If you are subscribed in Digest mode use the > same address but change the -L- to -D-. > >