I can see limiting the grave decorations if the deceased has been buried for a while, some grave decorations can get out of hand and would be hard for cemetery maintenance. In my local cemetery I regularly see children's toys, home made signs, vases of flowers, balloons, birthday cards- even cans of beer placed on a headstone as tribute.... and while it is touching to the deceased I can see how hard it would be to mow and trim around. But for what funerals cost you should be able to have all the flowers you like at the time of burial- at least limited amount of time. Rachel Snow689@aol.com wrote: At one funeral I went to in Buffalo, the funeral director said only one bouquet was allowed at the cemetery, and the rest would be thrown away. That might be why they say, "Flowers are gratefully declined." The cemetery where my parents are, the groundskeeper is older, and getting tired of a lot of work, and I imagine that hauling away tons of flowers takes quite a bit of work. Kathy ==== NYERIE Mailing List ==== List Administrator: Dick Rose My Genealogy: http://members.cox.net/dtrose/ Archived Messages at: http://archiver.rootsweb.com/ ============================== Find your ancestors in the Birth, Marriage and Death Records. New content added every business day. Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13964/rd.ashx "Volunteer of Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness" http://www.raogk.com/ Lenawee county, MI --------------------------------- Discover Yahoo! Have fun online with music videos, cool games, IM & more. Check it out!

I think that it is actually the family asking for a limit of flowers sent to the funeral home. An over-abundance of flower arrangements can be overwhelming. Mary -----Original Message----- From: Rachel [mailto:fullerfamilytree@yahoo.com] Sent: Sunday, June 05, 2005 3:32 PM To: NYERIE-L@rootsweb.com Subject: Re: [NYERIE] only in Buffalo I can see limiting the grave decorations if the deceased has been buried for a while, some grave decorations can get out of hand and would be hard for cemetery maintenance. In my local cemetery I regularly see children's toys, home made signs, vases of flowers, balloons, birthday cards- even cans of beer placed on a headstone as tribute.... and while it is touching to the deceased I can see how hard it would be to mow and trim around. But for what funerals cost you should be able to have all the flowers you like at the time of burial- at least limited amount of time. Rachel Snow689@aol.com wrote: At one funeral I went to in Buffalo, the funeral director said only one bouquet was allowed at the cemetery, and the rest would be thrown away. That might be why they say, "Flowers are gratefully declined." The cemetery where my parents are, the groundskeeper is older, and getting tired of a lot of work, and I imagine that hauling away tons of flowers takes quite a bit of work. Kathy ==== NYERIE Mailing List ==== List Administrator: Dick Rose My Genealogy: http://members.cox.net/dtrose/ Archived Messages at: http://archiver.rootsweb.com/ ============================== Find your ancestors in the Birth, Marriage and Death Records. New content added every business day. Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13964/rd.ashx "Volunteer of Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness" http://www.raogk.com/ Lenawee county, MI --------------------------------- Discover Yahoo! Have fun online with music videos, cool games, IM & more. Check it out! ==== NYERIE Mailing List ==== List Administrator: Dick Rose <dtrose@cox.net> My Genealogy: http://members.cox.net/dtrose/ Archived Messages at: http://archiver.rootsweb.com/ ============================== Census images 1901, 1891, 1881 and 1871, plus so much more. Ancestry.com's United Kingdom & Ireland Collection. Learn more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13968/rd.ashx

Actually, if you Google on the phrase "flowers gratefully declined," you see that it appears in newspaper death notices from all over, not just Buffalo. --- Rachel <fullerfamilytree@yahoo.com> wrote: > I can see limiting the grave decorations if the deceased has > been buried for a while, some grave decorations can get out of > hand and would be hard for cemetery maintenance. In my local > cemetery I regularly see children's toys, home made signs, > vases of flowers, balloons, birthday cards- even cans of beer > placed on a headstone as tribute.... and while it is touching > to the deceased I can see how hard it would be to mow and trim > around. But for what funerals cost you should be able to > have all the flowers you like at the time of burial- at least > limited amount of time. > > Rachel > Snow689@aol.com wrote: > At one funeral I went to in Buffalo, the funeral director said > only one > bouquet was allowed at the cemetery, and the rest would be > thrown away. That > might be why they say, "Flowers are gratefully declined." > The cemetery where my parents are, the groundskeeper is older, > and > getting tired of a lot of work, and I imagine that hauling > away tons of flowers > takes quite a bit of work. > > Kathy > > > ==== NYERIE Mailing List ==== > List Administrator: Dick Rose > > My Genealogy: http://members.cox.net/dtrose/ > Archived Messages at: http://archiver.rootsweb.com/ > > ============================== > Find your ancestors in the Birth, Marriage and Death Records. > New content added every business day. Learn more: > http://www.ancestry.com/s13964/rd.ashx > > > > > "Volunteer of Random Acts of Genealogical Kindness" > http://www.raogk.com/ > Lenawee county, MI > > > > > --------------------------------- > Discover Yahoo! > Have fun online with music videos, cool games, IM & more. > Check it out! > > > ==== NYERIE Mailing List ==== > List Administrator: Dick Rose <dtrose@cox.net> > My Genealogy: http://members.cox.net/dtrose/ > Archived Messages at: http://archiver.rootsweb.com/ > > ============================== > Census images 1901, 1891, 1881 and 1871, plus so much more. > Ancestry.com's United Kingdom & Ireland Collection. Learn > more: http://www.ancestry.com/s13968/rd.ashx > > *:-.,_,.-:*'``'*:-.,_,.-:*'``'*:-.,_,.-:*'``'*:-.,_,.-:**:-.,_,.-* Cynthia Van Ness, MLS, bettybarcode AT yahoo DOT com www.buffaloresearch.com "My heart is moved by all I cannot save: So much has been destroyed I have to cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world." -Adrienne Rich