Hi!   I know many of you use Findagrave. I have been adding memorials for 2 years now thanks to a fellow lister! (you know who you are)   I have a Uncle who was a career military man. Because of his travels, we discovered he had another family in another town. I know that for warly 1900's this is quite comon. ( i suspect there are more) but we have documentation of the 2 families.   For me, I feel BOTH families should be included in his findagrave memorial as "survived by". I have no problem accepting the 2nd family. Only 2 other people in our family know abt the other family. We are familiar with the 1st family. There was no divorce of the 1st wife.   One of the children of the 2nd family just passed away last week.   Since the other family may not know abt us and most of our family does not know abt them....how can I tastefully include ALL family survivors in the findagrave memorial?   Any ideas? I am stumped.   laurieg       Researching: Ancestor Activist- Amico,Asciutto,Arico,Galbo,Giambrone,Mistretta,Frisa, Ortalano,Lazarra,Piacenti Van Ausdale,(Van Oesdale,Vanosdale,Van Arsdale, Van Arsdalen)Hendrickson Hartman,Mikuszewski,Szulc.

Laurie, That is a real conundrum. Having a great revelation posted on line could really cause a stir among at least some of the relatives of both families. Since you said there are a few who do know, can you ask those members if they have confided in anyone else? You may find there are more aware of this than you thought. I would get their opinions on listing all family members. Another thought is that many of those who do not know about this may never see the web site, and therefore not be affected at all. Just a few thoughts. Good luck on your decision making. Nelson > Date: Sat, 2 Jan 2010 18:50:18 -0800 > From: laurieg14120@yahoo.com > To: nyerie@rootsweb.com > Subject: [NYERIE] Sensitive question for Findagrave memorial > > Hi! > > I know many of you use Findagrave. I have been adding memorials for 2 years now thanks to a fellow lister! (you know who you are) > > I have a Uncle who was a career military man. Because of his travels, we discovered he had another family in another town. I know that for warly 1900's this is quite comon. > ( i suspect there are more) but we have documentation of the 2 families. > > For me, I feel BOTH families should be included in his findagrave memorial as "survived by". > I have no problem accepting the 2nd family. Only 2 other people in our family know abt the other family. We are familiar with the 1st family. There was no divorce of the 1st wife. > > One of the children of the 2nd family just passed away last week. > > Since the other family may not know abt us and most of our family does not know abt them....how can I tastefully include ALL family survivors in the findagrave memorial? > > Any ideas? I am stumped. > > laurieg > > > > > > Researching: Ancestor Activist- > > Amico,Asciutto,Arico,Galbo,Giambrone,Mistretta,Frisa, > Ortalano,Lazarra,Piacenti > Van Ausdale,(Van Oesdale,Vanosdale,Van Arsdale, > Van Arsdalen)Hendrickson > Hartman,Mikuszewski,Szulc. > > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to NYERIE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message _________________________________________________________________ Hotmail: Free, trusted and rich email service. http://clk.atdmt.com/GBL/go/171222984/direct/01/

How many in your family know about Findagrave and do they actually use it? I, also, contribute to Findagrave but I don't think anybody in my family or my husband's family know that it exists. However, I am a private type of person and do things without others knowing about it. If it wasn't for genealogy, I wouldn't know it exists. I agree with you that they all should be included in the memorial. From what you wrote, it sounds like you aren't sure who knows and who doesn't. My opinion: put it the way you feel it should be........that way you'll find out who knows about the situation and who uses Findagrave. If someone comes along with questions, tell them the truth and explain that you didn't know who knew about the situation and who didn't. After all, if they have the same blood running through their veins, I feel they should know (remember....my opinion). My biggest concern in these situations is 'in-breeding' when no one is around to explain. Let's face it, it's like planning a wedding........you can't please everybody but you do your best. Ruth