I haven't posted here in a long time.  Over the years I've posted looking for info about my Aunt Ida Esterby.  So many people tried to help me but I just couldn't find her.  Well....I FOUND HER!!!!!!  I've been searching for her for 20 years.  What I knew for a fact was that she was living with her parents on the 1892 and 1900 census.  Then I found a newspaper article dated 1903 that said Ida's father Hans accused her of abusing the younger children in the home and Ida was put into the Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Children while an investigation was ongoing.  I never found out the outcome of the investigation but I find Ida again on the 1905 New Jersey Census living with a Methodist minister and his family by the name of Reverend Joseph Owen.  After that I lost track of her.  There was a Lydia Esterby on the 1910 New York Census living at the Florence Mission with a newborn baby daughter (b. April  1910) but I could never prove if it was her.  I heard that many woman who lived at the mission changed their names to protect their reputation.  The Florence Mission was a home for woman who had children out of wedlock (among other things).  The babies name was LeNora Esterby and I could not find a Lydia or a Lenora on any other records.   Then a few months ago I had a DNA match with a guy named Matt.  When I looked at his tree to look for common names, we didn't have any but he had an Ida Owen in his tree.  She married a Sidney Millson in 1916 and she was listed on the 1920, 1930, and 1940 census's living in Pennsylvania but he didn't have any parents listed for her and nothing before her marriage in 1916.  I thought maybe my Ida took the name Owen, after the family she lived with in 1905.  I wrote to Matt but he never responded.  This Ida Owen name kept bugging me, so I started looking for her in other people's trees and I found a guy named Charlie who also had her in his tree.  I wrote to him and he responded.  Ida was his grandmother and he said she was a compulsive liar. She made up several stories about how and where she was born and who her parents were.  Also...when she married Sidney in 1916, she had already had a daughter...born April 2, 1910.  I went back and looked at that 1910 census with Lydia Esterby and I noticed a woman named Oleda D. Cole age 20 who was a worker at the Florence Mission....Ida Owen wrote the name of her mother on her marriage record as Oleda Cole.   The pieces were starting to fit.  I still can't find Ida on the 1915 census or her husband Sidney and I'm dying to know what happened to her between 1910 and when she married Sidney in 1916.  Matt is also a DNA match to my mom and my cousin Christy...who is the granddaughter of Ida's sister.  So I know for a fact Matts family is related on my Esterby side.   So I'm positive that Ida Millson is my Ida Esterby.  Charlie just ordered his DNA test.  Weird thing...Ida and Sidney moved to Ellwood City, PA not long after they married, its just north of Pittsburgh.  I live north of Detroit and my hubby took me on a weekend trip for my 50th birthday...we drove to Shanksville, PA to see the United 93 memorial and then we went to Pittsburgh to see Mama Mia....we drove right past the town of Ellwood City.  If I would have found her 2 months ago I would have stopped to visit her grave.  I swear she sensed my presence and called out to me to be found.  It was a total long shot that Ida Owen was my Ida Esterby but it just kept bugging me.   At some point, Ida changed Lenora's name to Oleda.  I don't know if Ida was friends with this Oleda or just remembers her from the Florence Mission but for some reason she used her name as her mothers name on her marriage cert and changed her daughters name to Oleda.  She also told her family that she was born on an ocean liner named Oceanus and that she was orphaned on the ship but that she was also related to the Winthrop family who helped settle Massachusetts.  She also told people that she was a Winthrop from White Plains, Westchester, NY.  Even naming her 2nd child, a son with Sidney, John Winthrop Millson.   I think the name Winthrop could be significant to Ida for some reason.  Did she take the name from someone she knew or did she just want people to think she came from a prominent family?   Ida also told people that Lenora/Oleda's father was killed in a fire in Connecticut along with another child.  I tried searching all these stories and can't find any truth to any of them.  OH...also...Ida Millsons birthdate is July 20, 1889 and my Ida Esterby is listed on 2 census's with the birthdate July 1889. I just wanted to share my success story and to thank everyone who tried to help in the past.  Kim