Republican Advocate Batavia, Genesee Co., NY February 14 1832 IS SHE WELL MARRIED? How often, when a young lady is married, do we hear the inquiry, "Is she well married?" One would naturally suppose that the affirmation of this question would depend on the farther inquiry, was she united to a man every way qualified to make a good husband--whether he was by birth & education, fitted to move in the same rank with herself--by nature, endowed with a heart to love and cherish her--by his industrious habits, was sure of providing her with a suitable maintainance. But he, who should put such a construction upon the affirmative of his question, would in the midst of our city dames be set down for a fool--a poor miserable fool. To be well married--I speak the language of a managing mother, with a dozen grown up girls on her hands--to be well married, is to be married to a fortune--no matter to whom, but as the phrase is, to how much. Aye, & how much think you, ye prudent, painstaking mothers, how much money will realize your fond expectations and secure to your daughter a good match? Oh, I hear you say, I am not ambitious of a Croesus for my daughter a husband, but he must be well to do in the world.--Well, madam, and what are your ideas of being, well to do in the world? Is it to be able to support your daughter, in the ten thousand extravagances in which you have brought her up--to gratify her passion for dress and parties--to pay off long bills, which she may be disposed--and she will not lack the disposition, I promise you--to run up at the milliner's and other shops--to be able too, to support the expense of a foolish rivalship with those of her acquaintances she may be desirous of out doing in show and splendor--to live in a dashy house, furnished with dashy furniture--to give dashy parties, and to drive a dashy establishment? If those be your moderate pretensions, and your unambitious expectations in getting your daughter married, my word for it, madam, you will be disappointed. She may dash away for a while but ere long her husband is a bankrupt--the income of a man 'well to do in the world,' cannot stand such expenses.--You may then have the bitter satisfaction indeed, of seeing your daughter married, and as you believe, 'well married,'--but when wealth is gone--and it quickly goes when at the disposal of a a young wife, like your daughter--what then will become of her matrimonial happiness? It is gone; gone, I fear irretrievably gone. Look around, madam, among your acquaintances of those of whom you once thought "well married." Learn wisdom by this lessons, and inculcate better sentiments in the minds of your daughters.