Hello List   Some of you may, like me, have been quite shocked at the tone of a reply sent to another list member in the last 24 hours. Actually, whichever of the two opinions you agree with, I hope a lot of you were shocked.   We all have differing opinions but I feel the reply overstepped a mark in that it was extreme, expressed rudely, was derogatory towards and personally insulting to the original poster and also, on some levels, incorrect. I was disappointed to read it on a forum aimed at being helpful towards fellow family historians at all levels regardless of their experience.   Personally I agreed with the poster and I can't help feeling that most people would lean that way. The reply seemed to miss the point entirely that this was a specific and personal  situation. I would certainly hope that if I found myself in a similar situation my point of view would be respected. I perhaps naively believe that only a tiny few, of those actively researching their family trees, would deliberately ignore a request for privacy especially concerning young children.   I hope posting my response in this way has not been too confusing, I didn't think it necessary to draw attention to individuals, we all need reminding at times to use a little tact in expressing ourselves.   Regards   Kara Drury, NZ