Dear NJ Somers County Listers: A week ago or so, I mentioned that I would be going to New Jersey to do some on-site research, and particularly some cemetaries and libraries. Since then I have had innumerable people from the list emailing me privately reuqesting lookups of their family data when I go. Unfortunately I will not have the time to accomodate these requests; I barely have the time and money to do what I need to do for my own family, which includes seeing relatives I haven't seen since I was a child. It may be that the first person to have requested this I responded to in the affirmative because I didnt' quite know how they found out but felt I ought to - or rather, I didn't know how, as many people don't, these days, to say "no" and did so unwittingly over to the whole list, which promoted the idea. If so, I didn't realize I had, and having begun to refuse requests, I have also begun to recieve nasty notes in return about doing for others but not for them. Please realize that I will have to refuse all requests to do lookups. I just don't have the ability to attend to this but sporatically in my life, my trip will take me in 4 days from NJ to WV to OHio to my uncle's in Vriginia, where his private collection of my aunt resides. At this point, I can't order how I will acomplish all that I hope to in this short time. I have not had a car that would drive the distance in 23 years, and have not had any kind of trip in that time. I don't know when I will be able do this again. Sorry. I hate to dissapoint people, but it is a little strange that expectations were raised to begin with. I never broadcasted an offer to do lookups over the list. Please tone this down, and please don't write me poison notes, like the one below from Pam Dickey, when I have to say no. Thanks, Cheryl HigginsCheryl L. Higgins cwhitnah@netmeg.net Researching: Whitnah, Weidknecht, Whitenack, Weyknecht, Pope, Carroll, Evans, Higgins, Cheney, Murphy ----- Original Message ----- From: Pam Dickey U.E. <pamdickeyue@ptbo.igs.net> To: C. Higgins <cwhitnah@netmeg.net> Sent: Tuesday, June 22, 1999 8:19 PM Subject: Re: Clover Hill and Montgomery Cemeteries > Don't bother. I saw you offer to do some look-ups for someone else > pertaining to the Lake family and thought you might be able to help > me. My mistake > >