I just discovered something that should be discussed with genealogy people. My 2nd cousin was or is in town from Missouri and we just got back from having breakfast with him and his wife. In our conversations this morning, he made the remark that our distance cousin who died penniless and had moved to another state after the death of her husband was upset the last years of her life as she kept saying I want to be buried in the same cemetery beside my husband, but cannot afford to go back now and have no money for plot and services. Anyway to make a long story short she died, and my 2nd cousin knew of her despair and he was told that she was cremated to cut costs. He knew of her desire to be buried beside her husband so he went and had a headstone made and planted it beside her husbands tombstone at this cemetery. He said he put "in memory of" on it and her name and date of birth and death. He said that there was another cousin that he was going to do the same thing with but she is actually buried in Washington but he is going to put a headstone in the local cemetery so that she is with family even thought her body or remains are in Washington. Am I confused or what here. Won't this very confusing to the future generations who find them supposedly buried in one place but headstone in another? If he wants to go to the expense of headstones for their memory, shouldn't it be worded a special way? I told him I would check into it and get back to him--can I have some feed back on this. Maybe I just don't understand and it will be recorded or something about the cremations. As all of you know cremation is getting to be done more and more because of less expenses. My own Mother wants to be cremated but told her I wanted her to buy a burial plot and have her ashes put there in her family's cemetery and she has agreed to do this, in fact already done. Thanks for listening. Ideana