Lanita: Like the previous responder, I too have given freely of any of my information and have gotten information from others. However, and depending on how much you were asking for the book, "I don't think so!" He should do the research for himself if he wants to publish a book. I've taken other's ged com but always have gone back and redone all the steps and saved the documentation. The ged com should be used only as a "hint" as to where to look. Those of us who are into this stuff spend too much time in front of the computer, going to libraries, on the phone and in archives. Everyone needs to put in their time. Lord knows I've been chasing my husband's g grandmother and her parents for 25 years, I'm not about to "give" all my tracks away. And by the way, she better be waiting for me at the pearly gates, 'cause we've gotta talk! Is there not a way to just give him the names without dates, places and sources? That would give him what he asked for but force him into filling in the blanks. Especially if he isn't going to give you credit for your efforts. Just some thoughts. Elizabeth Crabtree. ----- Original Message ---- From: "modavies-request@rootsweb.com" <modavies-request@rootsweb.com> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wednesday, September 5, 2007 2:00:44 AM Subject: MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Today's Topics: 1. Gedcom (Rhonda Madison) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Message: 1 Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 21:14:01 -0600 From: Rhonda Madison <rhondamadison@hotmail.com> Subject: [MODAVIES] Gedcom To: <modavies@rootsweb.com> Message-ID: <BAY117-W27570DFE03E6E09DB8F691A2CB0@phx.gbl> Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Hi, Lanita, I understand your dilema. You are a kind and generous researcher and have helped me in the past. I don't think the new researcher understands what he's asking of you. I definitely don't think you should "give" him your gedcom. I have benefited from several family members who have given freely of their information and I have given freely. But once a book has been published , I don't feel that anyone should ask for their information without purchasing their book. I don't know if it will offend him or not, but you can tell him that you put many years of research into your book and will sell him the book. Then he might realize that it is a large undertaking and shouldn't just "get" your gedcom for free when other family members have purchased the book. I hope I've made my point and maybe offending him will be ok. He'll get over it . Sincerely, Rhonda Madison Message: 1Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 18:13:16 -0500From: Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net>Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some inputTo: modavies@rootsweb.comMessage-ID: <8aa38b3a959aac541df2bdecacd35742@grm.net>Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII; format=flowed Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and critici! zed the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions! , and input..... Lanita _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx ------------------------------ To contact the MODAVIES list administrator, send an email to MODAVIES-admin@rootsweb.com. To post a message to the MODAVIES mailing list, send an email to MODAVIES@rootsweb.com. __________________________________________________________ To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word "unsubscribe" without the quotes in the subject and the body of the email with no additional text. End of MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 ****************************************
I have been reading this morning about sharing ged files with people who are looking for a short cut in their genealogy research. If they don't want to buy your book, they should do without.? About two years ago I had a first cousin's child contact me about research that would allow her to join DAR so that her daughter could apply for a scholarship.? I have been doing research on the particular family for more than 15 years and made trips to New England a my expense to do further research.? You have helped me decide to charge for this information.? How about $500.00.? The kin I refer to didn't even have the courtesy to send a thank you note when they received it.? The mailing alone was more than $5.00. Thanks for listening. -----Original Message----- From: Elizabeth Crabtree <coinco1995@sbcglobal.net> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2007 10:21 am Subject: Re: [MODAVIES] MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Lanita: Like the previous responder, I too have given freely of any of my information and have gotten information from others. However, and depending on how much you were asking for the book, "I don't think so!" He should do the research for himself if he wants to publish a book. I've taken other's ged com but always have gone back and redone all the steps and saved the documentation. The ged com should be used only as a "hint" as to where to look. Those of us who are into this stuff spend too much time in front of the computer, going to libraries, on the phone and in archives. Everyone needs to put in their time. Lord knows I've been chasing my husband's g grandmother and her parents for 25 years, I'm not about to "give" all my tracks away. And by the way, she better be waiting for me at the pearly gates, 'cause we've gotta talk! Is there not a way to just give him the names without dates, places and sources? That would give him what he asked for but force him into filling in the blanks. Especially if he isn't going to give you credit for your efforts. Just some thoughts. Elizabeth Crabtree. ----- Original Message ---- From: "modavies-request@rootsweb.com" <modavies-request@rootsweb.com> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wednesday, September 5, 2007 2:00:44 AM Subject: MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Today's Topics: 1. Gedcom (Rhonda Madison) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Message: 1 Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 21:14:01 -0600 From: Rhonda Madison <rhondamadison@hotmail.com> Subject: [MODAVIES] Gedcom To: <modavies@rootsweb.com> Message-ID: <BAY117-W27570DFE03E6E09DB8F691A2CB0@phx.gbl> Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Hi, Lanita, I understand your dilema. You are a kind and generous researcher and have helped me in the past. I don't think the new researcher understands what he's asking of you. I definitely don't think you should "give" him your gedcom. I have benefited from several family members who have given freely of their information and I have given freely. But once a book has been published , I don't feel that anyone should ask for their information without purchasing their book. I don't know if it will offend him or not, but you can tell him that you put many years of research into your book and will sell him the book. Then he might realize that it is a large undertaking and shouldn't just "get" your gedcom for free when other family members have purchased the book. I hope I've made my point and maybe offending him will be ok. He'll get over it . Sincerely, Rhonda Madison Message: 1Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 18:13:16 -0500From: Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net>Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some inputTo: modavies@rootsweb.comMessage-ID: <8aa38b3a959aac541df2bdecacd35742@grm.net>Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII; format=flowed Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and critici! zed the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions! , and input..... Lanita _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx ------------------------------ To contact the MODAVIES list administrator, send an email to MODAVIES-admin@rootsweb.com. To post a message to the MODAVIES mailing list, send an email to MODAVIES@rootsweb.com. __________________________________________________________ To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word "unsubscribe" without the quotes in the subject and the body of the email with no additional text. 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At the same time, Lanita, you will some day need someone to pass on your info to when you depart this world - someone who will love it and cherish it and protect as much as you do. You might consider leaving it to him in your will. Or maybe just try talking to him and explaining to him that this info represents years of work and you'd like to make sure he includes you in the credits. If he's a newbie, he probably just doesn't understand the etiquette of genealogy yet. I was guilty of the same thing in my early genie years, except I can't remember all the people I borrowed from so I can go back and thank them - if any of you are here -THANKS!!! SharonW -----Original Message-----