Lanita, I know I have corresponded with you before on relatives in Davises CO.. But, I don't remember which line it might have been. Could I ask which families are in your book? I might like to buy one, if you still have some available. I have Johnston,Castor,Davis,Beall in my lines in Davies and in Gentry CO., I have Ward,Fee,Williams. And as for the ged. if you have a book published then of course he should buy that! Nancy ************************************** Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL at http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour

Sorry, the book is on the DETHROWs from Oregon Co., MO..... I had to have it cheap in order for miracles to happen [ because a miracle always happens when a Dethrow parts with a dollar.. or such is the family joke on the tightness of the members!! : > ) ] Thanks for the interest though! Lanita

My thanks to all you have given your input. The books I have for sale are from $20 - $35, not a bad price, I thought, for what was in them... FREE is my middle name when it comes to sharing info, I'm glad to do so, and help in any way... However, to send the whole kittencaboodle just cause he wants it, just didn't sound 'kosher'... I'm glad to know that my hesitancy was justified. Many thanks! Lanita

I have been reading this morning about sharing ged files with people who are looking for a short cut in their genealogy research. If they don't want to buy your book, they should do without.? About two years ago I had a first cousin's child contact me about research that would allow her to join DAR so that her daughter could apply for a scholarship.? I have been doing research on the particular family for more than 15 years and made trips to New England a my expense to do further research.? You have helped me decide to charge for this information.? How about $500.00.? The kin I refer to didn't even have the courtesy to send a thank you note when they received it.? The mailing alone was more than $5.00. Thanks for listening. -----Original Message----- From: Elizabeth Crabtree <coinco1995@sbcglobal.net> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2007 10:21 am Subject: Re: [MODAVIES] MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Lanita: Like the previous responder, I too have given freely of any of my information and have gotten information from others. However, and depending on how much you were asking for the book, "I don't think so!" He should do the research for himself if he wants to publish a book. I've taken other's ged com but always have gone back and redone all the steps and saved the documentation. The ged com should be used only as a "hint" as to where to look. Those of us who are into this stuff spend too much time in front of the computer, going to libraries, on the phone and in archives. Everyone needs to put in their time. Lord knows I've been chasing my husband's g grandmother and her parents for 25 years, I'm not about to "give" all my tracks away. And by the way, she better be waiting for me at the pearly gates, 'cause we've gotta talk! Is there not a way to just give him the names without dates, places and sources? That would give him what he asked for but force him into filling in the blanks. Especially if he isn't going to give you credit for your efforts. Just some thoughts. Elizabeth Crabtree. ----- Original Message ---- From: "modavies-request@rootsweb.com" <modavies-request@rootsweb.com> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wednesday, September 5, 2007 2:00:44 AM Subject: MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Today's Topics: 1. Gedcom (Rhonda Madison) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Message: 1 Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 21:14:01 -0600 From: Rhonda Madison <rhondamadison@hotmail.com> Subject: [MODAVIES] Gedcom To: <modavies@rootsweb.com> Message-ID: <BAY117-W27570DFE03E6E09DB8F691A2CB0@phx.gbl> Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Hi, Lanita, I understand your dilema. You are a kind and generous researcher and have helped me in the past. I don't think the new researcher understands what he's asking of you. I definitely don't think you should "give" him your gedcom. I have benefited from several family members who have given freely of their information and I have given freely. But once a book has been published , I don't feel that anyone should ask for their information without purchasing their book. I don't know if it will offend him or not, but you can tell him that you put many years of research into your book and will sell him the book. Then he might realize that it is a large undertaking and shouldn't just "get" your gedcom for free when other family members have purchased the book. I hope I've made my point and maybe offending him will be ok. He'll get over it . Sincerely, Rhonda Madison Message: 1Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 18:13:16 -0500From: Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net>Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some inputTo: modavies@rootsweb.comMessage-ID: <8aa38b3a959aac541df2bdecacd35742@grm.net>Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII; format=flowed Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and critici! zed the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions! , and input..... Lanita _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx ------------------------------ To contact the MODAVIES list administrator, send an email to MODAVIES-admin@rootsweb.com. To post a message to the MODAVIES mailing list, send an email to MODAVIES@rootsweb.com. __________________________________________________________ To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word "unsubscribe" without the quotes in the subject and the body of the email with no additional text. 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Lanita: Like the previous responder, I too have given freely of any of my information and have gotten information from others. However, and depending on how much you were asking for the book, "I don't think so!" He should do the research for himself if he wants to publish a book. I've taken other's ged com but always have gone back and redone all the steps and saved the documentation. The ged com should be used only as a "hint" as to where to look. Those of us who are into this stuff spend too much time in front of the computer, going to libraries, on the phone and in archives. Everyone needs to put in their time. Lord knows I've been chasing my husband's g grandmother and her parents for 25 years, I'm not about to "give" all my tracks away. And by the way, she better be waiting for me at the pearly gates, 'cause we've gotta talk! Is there not a way to just give him the names without dates, places and sources? That would give him what he asked for but force him into filling in the blanks. Especially if he isn't going to give you credit for your efforts. Just some thoughts. Elizabeth Crabtree. ----- Original Message ---- From: "modavies-request@rootsweb.com" <modavies-request@rootsweb.com> To: modavies@rootsweb.com Sent: Wednesday, September 5, 2007 2:00:44 AM Subject: MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 Today's Topics: 1. Gedcom (Rhonda Madison) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Message: 1 Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 21:14:01 -0600 From: Rhonda Madison <rhondamadison@hotmail.com> Subject: [MODAVIES] Gedcom To: <modavies@rootsweb.com> Message-ID: <BAY117-W27570DFE03E6E09DB8F691A2CB0@phx.gbl> Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Hi, Lanita, I understand your dilema. You are a kind and generous researcher and have helped me in the past. I don't think the new researcher understands what he's asking of you. I definitely don't think you should "give" him your gedcom. I have benefited from several family members who have given freely of their information and I have given freely. But once a book has been published , I don't feel that anyone should ask for their information without purchasing their book. I don't know if it will offend him or not, but you can tell him that you put many years of research into your book and will sell him the book. Then he might realize that it is a large undertaking and shouldn't just "get" your gedcom for free when other family members have purchased the book. I hope I've made my point and maybe offending him will be ok. He'll get over it . Sincerely, Rhonda Madison Message: 1Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 18:13:16 -0500From: Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net>Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some inputTo: modavies@rootsweb.comMessage-ID: <8aa38b3a959aac541df2bdecacd35742@grm.net>Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII; format=flowed Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and critici! zed the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions! , and input..... Lanita _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx ------------------------------ To contact the MODAVIES list administrator, send an email to MODAVIES-admin@rootsweb.com. To post a message to the MODAVIES mailing list, send an email to MODAVIES@rootsweb.com. __________________________________________________________ To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word "unsubscribe" without the quotes in the subject and the body of the email with no additional text. End of MODAVIES Digest, Vol 2, Issue 141 ****************************************

Tell him to buy the otiginal book and second book if he wants the info. You have no obligation to give him your hard work for free! --- Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net> wrote: > Hi all, > > I need some input from others. I have just returned > from coordinating > another family reunion. This particular family is > one where I have > researched the families connected, written 3 books, > and coordinated and > produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. > I've put unknown > hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in > researching the > families, and have joined DAR through one of the > families because of my > research. > > At this year's reunion, the updated book was > available for purchase. > Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, > wanted this one. A > particular family member [30 yr old] attended this > year's for the 1st > time. He is into genealogy within the last few years > and criticized the > updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a > strictly updated > version of the core family]. He didn't want to > purchase a book, but > wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can > use it to put out > another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not > once has he > mentioned about giving me credit]... > > Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage > this new cousin who's > discovered the fascination of researching family > history, but frankly, > I don't want to send him all the info I have just > cause he wants it.... > Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I > thought about just > sending him names, but since he didn't want to > purchase the book [and > didn't] and wants all this info free, this really > makes me feel > funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he > will use my info and > hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share > some of my info, > but not at the risk of not being recognized or > mentioned for the hard > work I've already done. > > I'm open to suggestions, and input..... > > Lanita > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email > to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word > 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and > the body of the message >

Once bit, twice shy!! I always "share" with others who are doing research, I also spend many hours doing look-ups for others and help in every way I can to further the search for that missing ancestor, mine, yours or who ever. I've driven miles and miles to take a cemetery photo for 3 different people, who never said thanks much less offer my expenses. Thanks would have been nice. I would NOT ever send anyone my gedcom, he sounds like one of those who can find their entire family tree in 6 months no matter what line or branch they actually belong to. We have those all the time and they always ask for "everything" you have. Help those who are kind enough not to belittle your hard work, and remember the thrill of discovery should be the same for them as it was for you. Just nudge them in the right direction. Just one persons opinion who has been through this little game, ONCE. Kay > -----Original Message----- > From: modavies-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:modavies- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Lanita Sconce Smith > Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 6:13 PM > To: modavies@rootsweb.com > Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input > > Hi all, > > I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating > another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have > researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and > produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown > hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the > families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my > research. > > At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. > Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A > particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st > time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the > updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated > version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but > wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out > another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he > mentioned about giving me credit]... > > Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's > discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, > I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... > Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just > sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and > didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel > funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and > hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, > but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard > work I've already done. > > I'm open to suggestions, and input..... > > Lanita > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES- > request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in > the subject and the body of the message

In a message dated 9/4/2007 6:46:31 P.M. Central Daylight Time, marjersasha@msn.com writes: You DO want your information ( right or wrong ) entered just as you have it written and in a special section of it's own WITH your name as the researcher. Only under those circumstances will you allow your information to be used. I agree with the above -- but how could you be sure your wishes would be honored once the material is in his hands? And if it isn't, you might have the beginning of a family feud to deal with. This is quite a dilemma. In general, collaboration is good because theoretically it should result in more accuracy, but it's not true collaboration if one person takes all the credit. What are the chances you could get him to put together what he has, forward it to you, and let you be the one to do the final drafting of the "bigger, larger edition?" Not sure how you could get that across tactfully, but it might be a possibility. Maybe something along the lines of, " I'm so glad that you are interested in carrying on the family records and I'd love to collaborate with you on this but since I've spent X number of years researching, I feel I should reserve the right to put together the final product and if there are any discrepancies, we can work them out together." That might work well, or it might be a big headache, depending on the person. Either way, it's not easy to co-author (voice of experience) no matter who you're working with. Please let us know how this turns out. We may be next in line. :-) Vanette ************************************** Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL at http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour

Just say NO. -----Original Message----- From: modavies-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:modavies-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Lanita Sconce Smith Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 4:13 PM To: modavies@rootsweb.com Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions, and input..... Lanita ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Hi, Lanita, I understand your dilema. You are a kind and generous researcher and have helped me in the past. I don't think the new researcher understands what he's asking of you. I definitely don't think you should "give" him your gedcom. I have benefited from several family members who have given freely of their information and I have given freely. But once a book has been published , I don't feel that anyone should ask for their information without purchasing their book. I don't know if it will offend him or not, but you can tell him that you put many years of research into your book and will sell him the book. Then he might realize that it is a large undertaking and shouldn't just "get" your gedcom for free when other family members have purchased the book. I hope I've made my point and maybe offending him will be ok. He'll get over it . Sincerely, Rhonda Madison Message: 1Date: Tue, 4 Sep 2007 18:13:16 -0500From: Lanita Sconce Smith <ozarkn@grm.net>Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some inputTo: modavies@rootsweb.comMessage-ID: <8aa38b3a959aac541df2bdecacd35742@grm.net>Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII; format=flowed Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions, and input..... Lanita _________________________________________________________________ News, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Get it now! http://www.live.com/getstarted.aspx

Lanita: I know it is hard work, long hours, and sometimes a lot of money to search for our ancestors but I have a completely different viewpoint. I got started on family history when I found out my wife was pregnant (1978). She followed me on a few Saturdays to the library until she was about 7 months pregnant, and then decided she couldn't sit there for hours on end. At that library in Austin, Texas I was researching my Starkey family, and a woman came up to me and asked me about them, as she was also researching a Starkey family. Lo and behold, we discovered we were cousins, and she gave me a lot of information on my family without a second thought. At that time I was just collecting names and didn't realize that it would be helpful to put down where I got the information, whether it be from a person, census record or birth or death certificate. I stopped my research for about 20 years (too many kids, committments, etc.) and then in 1999 with the advent of the Internet and a new computer, I began again. This time I was a little more (but not much more) sophisticated and began to write down sources. I put out a query on my Starkey family on a rootsweb list, and was really surprised to hear from that same woman twenty years later, who again helped me with the same family. Many, many people have given me information or advice freely. Since I have been researching on the Internet I have found many free sites, and am subscribed to many rootsweb lists such as this one, and you, along with many others on this list have helped me over the years whenever I have had a question, and I thank you for it. I have, in turn, tried to help others, even when I knew they were asking for information on a family not directly related to me. On several occasions I actually spent several hours of my time and found many a connection for those requesting assistance. I like the excitement of solving the mysteries more than anything else, and I don't expect to get paid, don't expect a thank you, and frankly, I don't care if someone uses my work at all, or if they don't give me credit. My goal is to find out as much as I can about my ancestors, and their descendants, and the more people who have access to what I have discovered the better. I put my family tree on the Rootsweb World Connect and whoever wants to use the data can do so. I do tell them that some of my research is not confirmed, that some of it is speculation, and some of it is just plain wrong, which I found out today, thanks to a wonderful lady who pointed out an error to me on my Miller family. I guess what I am trying to say is that I am not doing this to get credit for it. Please don't get me wrong. I am not saying that wanting credit for your hard work is a bad thing, because it is not. It is just not my thing. We are all motivated to do things in this world for a number of reasons, and taking pride in what you do is one of the best reasons for such an accomplishment. I think your work in genealogy is kind of like a carpenter who makes a cabinet. Once built, the carpenter takes pride in showing off the cabinet to others, and has every right to take credit for a job well done, and to get paid for it as well. You certainly deserve nothing less. Please forgive me for rambling on, and I hope that my point came across. I think what I am trying to say is that you have every right to seek credit, but please understand that some of us, especially when we are younger, take awhile to appreciate all of the hard work of others. Stephen Carlile Salem, Oregon

Lanita, I have been sitting here trying to think of a polite way to tell him to do his own research. A person puts their time and money into researching a family and then someone else wants all that information given to them so they can right a book I would just say NO. I have one fa,ily that I have given what I have to others and have had them twist it out of shape to satisfy there ideas of what is right. I had one person cclaim he had the father of my brickwall located when three of us have been chasing this person and still have not come up with the father. Two of the three have been at it for over thirty years. I would offer advices and help but no GEDCOM. Leon ----- Original Message ----- From: "Lanita Sconce Smith" <ozarkn@grm.net> To: <modavies@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 6:13 PM Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input > Hi all, > > I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating > another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have > researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and > produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown > hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the > families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my > research. > > At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. > Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A > particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st > time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the > updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated > version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but > wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out > another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he > mentioned about giving me credit]... > > Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's > discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, > I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... > Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just > sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and > didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel > funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and > hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, > but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard > work I've already done. > > I'm open to suggestions, and input..... > > Lanita > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions, and input..... Lanita

I agree!!!! ----- Original Message ----- From: Leon O. Kearns<mailto:lokearns@marktwain.net> To: modavies@rootsweb.com<mailto:modavies@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 5:36 PM Subject: Re: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input Lanita, I have been sitting here trying to think of a polite way to tell him to do his own research. A person puts their time and money into researching a family and then someone else wants all that information given to them so they can right a book I would just say NO. I have one fa,ily that I have given what I have to others and have had them twist it out of shape to satisfy there ideas of what is right. I had one person cclaim he had the father of my brickwall located when three of us have been chasing this person and still have not come up with the father. Two of the three have been at it for over thirty years. I would offer advices and help but no GEDCOM. Leon ----- Original Message ----- From: "Lanita Sconce Smith" <ozarkn@grm.net<mailto:ozarkn@grm.net>> To: <modavies@rootsweb.com<mailto:modavies@rootsweb.com>> Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 6:13 PM Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input > Hi all, > > I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating > another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have > researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and > produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown > hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the > families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my > research. > > At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. > Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A > particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st > time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the > updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated > version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but > wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out > another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he > mentioned about giving me credit]... > > Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's > discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, > I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... > Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just > sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and > didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel > funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and > hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, > but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard > work I've already done. > > I'm open to suggestions, and input..... > > Lanita > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com<mailto:MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com> with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com<mailto:MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com> with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Lanita, This is my feeling for what ever it is worth. Explain to him that you have went to much research and expense and IF he is willing to share the credit with you, you would be glad to enter your information in HIS book. You DO want your information ( right or wrong ) entered just as you have it written and in a special section of it's own WITH your name as the researcher. Only under those circumstances will you allow your information to be used. That is only fair. Under no circumstances would I send him my gedcom. MC ----- Original Message ----- From: Lanita Sconce Smith<mailto:ozarkn@grm.net> To: modavies@rootsweb.com<mailto:modavies@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 04, 2007 5:13 PM Subject: [MODAVIES] sharing GEDCOMs... need some input Hi all, I need some input from others. I have just returned from coordinating another family reunion. This particular family is one where I have researched the families connected, written 3 books, and coordinated and produced the family reunions for the past 7 years. I've put unknown hours, time and energy [not to mentioned expense] in researching the families, and have joined DAR through one of the families because of my research. At this year's reunion, the updated book was available for purchase. Those who didn't get the 1st one I put out in 2000, wanted this one. A particular family member [30 yr old] attended this year's for the 1st time. He is into genealogy within the last few years and criticized the updated book because it was too small [50 pages... a strictly updated version of the core family]. He didn't want to purchase a book, but wants me to send him my gedcom file so that he can use it to put out another book... 'a better, larger edition', and not once has he mentioned about giving me credit]... Frankly, I'm at a dilemma.... I want to encourage this new cousin who's discovered the fascination of researching family history, but frankly, I don't want to send him all the info I have just cause he wants it.... Am I being selfish? What should be my reply? I thought about just sending him names, but since he didn't want to purchase the book [and didn't] and wants all this info free, this really makes me feel funny...... I KNOW if he gets a book put out, he will use my info and hard work and take the credit.. I'm willing to share some of my info, but not at the risk of not being recognized or mentioned for the hard work I've already done. I'm open to suggestions, and input..... Lanita ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com<mailto:MODAVIES-request@rootsweb.com> with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

This is a Message Board Post that is gatewayed to this mailing list. Author: LDickin628 Surnames: Stewart Blankenship Classification: queries Message Board URL: http://boards.rootsweb.com/localities.northam.usa.states.missouri.counties.daviess/1747.1.1.1/mb.ashx Message Board Post: Give me a couple of days to poke around ..... Madison Stewart's daughter, Missouri, m. Jno. H. Blankenship 4 Oct 1877 in Daviess Co. The Blankenships are my line and I haven't been able to place this John. Important Note: The author of this message may not be subscribed to this list. If you would like to reply to them, please click on the Message Board URL link above and respond on the board.

This is a Message Board Post that is gatewayed to this mailing list. Author: CctKy Surnames: Classification: queries Message Board URL: http://boards.rootsweb.com/localities.northam.usa.states.missouri.counties.daviess/1747.1.1/mb.ashx Message Board Post: Thank you so much for your help. Did you happen to find any more information on Leander and Taylor? Important Note: The author of this message may not be subscribed to this list. If you would like to reply to them, please click on the Message Board URL link above and respond on the board.

This is a Message Board Post that is gatewayed to this mailing list. Author: LDickin628 Surnames: Stewart Classification: queries Message Board URL: http://boards.rootsweb.com/localities.northam.usa.states.missouri.counties.daviess/1747.1/mb.ashx Message Board Post: I can't find a listing for the grave of Madison Stewart, however his wife, Rebecca, is buried in the Centenery Cemetery in Daviess Co., MO. She d. 11 Dec 1884. The only other Stewarts buried in that cemetery are Taylor and Leander. Perhaps Madison's grave is unmarked? Hope this helps. Important Note: The author of this message may not be subscribed to this list. If you would like to reply to them, please click on the Message Board URL link above and respond on the board.

This is a Message Board Post that is gatewayed to this mailing list. Author: immisty038 Surnames: Classification: queries Message Board URL: http://boards.rootsweb.com/localities.northam.usa.states.missouri.counties.daviess/1767/mb.ashx Message Board Post: Looking for info on George WRIGHT of Kansas City, from either OH or KY. He was born 1860. GINNY 2 vmartinez5946@aol.com Important Note: The author of this message may not be subscribed to this list. If you would like to reply to them, please click on the Message Board URL link above and respond on the board.

I didn't get the date of death for your Harley Booker but I found this........ Harley Booker SS# 453-18-7280 Born - 6 Oct. 1904 Died - March 1968 - San Antonio, TX SS# from Texas before 1951 Hope this helps. Mary ************************************** Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL at http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour