I have a similar problem with my husband's family. His grandmother died last December, and she left a huge, huge stack of funeral cards. While everyone else choose little pieces to take home with them that Sunday, I went through these wonderful cards. There was even a set of cards from his great grandmother Hattie Kujawa. One was in Polish and the other in English. And both included a photo of the woman. How I would have loved to have these treasures. But they weren't dividing her papers yet, so nothing was done with them. And I am just the wife of a grandson. I did later get a page from his great grandfather's will that listed the children of the marriage. Never did find out what happened to the funeral cards. What a loss.